Another email from her tonight, I only edit out names...
Your BOA information arrived today. Don't use this address...you don't live here and I don't know where to forward mail. Now that you have your own account at a local bank, may I assume we can close the joint accounts?
See, I go open another account and I have to use my real address otherwise I can't opent he account. This is the account I setup for the TomTom thing... in case it is a scam, they don't have my real bank account info. but here I go opening a secret account somewhere that wifey can't see... what an A-hole I am!!!
Another thing...I think you only told me you wanted to come home because you wanted me to drop the Restraining Order. That is fine because that was my intention anyway...but it just ticks me off to know you keep telling me whatever you think I want to hear.
Yes, before court whent here was no bailiff around I did tell her I want to come home, that wasn't a lie! That wasn't to get me out of trouble...why can't she see that???
I know you cheated and the fact that you continue to lie about it makes me sick. The diagnosis...means at some point you cheated. If not recently, at least since we have been married. You had your smut on the computers...spent all night on line all the time. Password on your cell phone. Your worked ungodly hours at least on two occasions - that is crap. Your little set-up in the boiler room pisses me off because there is no need for that type of set up in the basement...unless you were hiding something from me....which I feel with all of my heart.
She doesn't knwo I have test results saying I'm clean. Could she seriously think this came from me? Could she NOT have cheated herself? Did a test result go to the wrong patient? yes i was online alot, but computers is what I do for a living, no schooling on it. What I knwo i learn from doing or researching. isn't that one of the many things the internet allows for these days??? No more Libraries... The cell phone thing... heck i can't remember the last time I used my persaonl cell phone, I swear she put my cell on her plan just to be able to check my phonecalls...period. Funny thing though, she was the only one i ever called or got calls from. Aside from the occasionally rare call to/from the kids... The setup she talks about...again, VoIP phones needs a hardline in at least 1 set... I guess i should have hardlined that one in the master bedroom instead of getting it out of the way int he basement where all the lines come into the house.... i hide nothign from her, cuz first of all I have no need to, secondly when i did try way back when...she ALWAYS knew. Even if it was the littlest of things like a surprise gift ot something. I NEVER ONCE GAVE HER REASON TO BELIEVE I WAS CHEATING. Although i do she her POV on it. I just wish this dang RO would go away so i could explain all this to HER.
I hoped we could get past all of this and still have a family someday...but the more I learn, the more it is clear that won't happen.
I will not prevent our son from visitng with you because he does love you, but I prefer that the baby not get to know you at all. Besides if I recall, you told the cops you weren't even sure if this was your baby...so it should not matter to you anyway.
Proof right here that after I was cuffed she was in the doorway listening to everythign i was telling the Police. That must have bothered her big time to hear me tell someone I think she's the dirty one in this relationship....
Please look at refinancing the Montego in your own name...you may get a better interest rate now.
I have not asked for support of any kind and seeing as I pay all the bills and support the family, you should be able to handle the loan payments on a car. You don't have rent or any other bills to pay.
I have to pay for the insurance while the car is still on my policy, but that has to change too since you do not live here.
USAA won't continue to insure the car under me if they know you live somewhere else. I will pay the insurance tonight since that is due tomorrow.
And i believe it's only a matter of time that she make them aware the car is not garaged there, but then, this time the car is in her name too and a loan against it... so perhaps she would get into trouble if she told them? I love ow she goes on about me not having bills and no rent... yep... no NOTHING thank you very much.... how's that $9K bonus you got 2 weeks ago doing for you??? You know, the day before you had me arrested!!!
I don't think you will ever tell me the truth and that is the one thing that I need most of all.
I gave you every chance to come clean and you wouldn't...so I have decided to move on.
panic when i read this... does this mean the boyfriend is moving in????? I never got the chance to come clean on anything. There was nothing to come clean on, on my end. And when i got medical proof of that I couldn't share it with her because of a flippin RO!!!! And now I have to wait for my bail conditions to change!!! WTF?!?!?!? IS she going on with her life without givign me the chance to explain ANYTHING?!?!?!?!
You should talk to your lawyer about getting bail conditions changed to allow for email contact at the very least so we can arrange visitation with your son. I don't know how else to do it...and I am not happy about leaving him at that center alone while he has to wait for you since we are not allowed to see one another.
Woah!!!! She's leaving him ALONE?????? OK ALL this info NEEDS to get to my lawyer ASAP!!! (And I need a compitent one- no offense to Public defenders)
I do hope we can at least be friends for our son's sake. I will be civil through out all of this and I will never talk bad about you to him.
Take care,
L
At least when she wrote to her ex about the trip she took to Vegas, neglecting to tell him she got married, or anythign about ME... she signed it "Love L"....
She's lied right there too... she's already talked bad about me. I used to hear it all the time.. "Your father's an A-hole" "Daddy's a loser"...to the point where HE WOULD REPEAT IT BACK TO ME!!!!
PS - there were lots of planes tonight and hen asked where you were. I won't let you disappoint him like the others.
Ok so I bent a rule of the RO a little, BIG MISTAKE I think too. I thought...hmm I am on IM, she is on IM, I can't talk to her...but... I CAN change my status to a custom message....
So all day today my Status said "Going to watch airplanes tonight, I wish my son could be with me" Then I thought, oh crap, what if she shows up? that would be GREAT, but... it could lend me up in jail, so I changed it to "No airplanes for me tonight, not the same without him there". I don't know if I FUBAR'd that one or not. Or if she was really even there. SHE never liked going, but she came, to be with us, and she did get a kick out of his expressioins whent he planes went by...