Quoting Robin Williams:

"God gave men a brain and a penis and unfortunately, not enough blood supply to use both at once."

Well, I was right, two dates into the whole abstain thing and we end up in bed, like umm, 7 times over a 24 hour period.

I feel like a bull after mating season...ugh...no more.

First date was great though, and we did not sleep together. Wonderful evening nevertheless.

Second date, I just couldn't say no. Call me weak willed, or whatever. Strange thing is though that we did some other really fun stuff besides making love, like dancing, massages, dinner together, went out to the park and tossed a football (never done that with a woman before...awesome) and just relaxed on the couch together. We asked each other some very deep questions too. Lots of talking.
I felt I got to know her pretty intimitely without the nagging urge to have sex. Umm, although we did, whenever the urge came back. But in between those sessions it was very enjoyable seeing what she's about.
We seem to have a great time together no matter what we are doing. We also share many many interests. So much in common in our outlook and philosophy.
Can't wait to see her again, and frankly, if we make love or not next time we see each other, I'm fine with it.

You probably know her well enough now to call her your soul mate.

One could only hope that poor Tibolt could evolve to achieve complete cephalic/phallic integration before the head on his shoulders shrivels up and falls off from lack of use...

Integration of these two things would probably require us to be making love while at the same time getitng to know each other in non physical ways. Which is exactly what is happening. I'll let you know if my head on my shoulders ever shrivels up and falls off. In fact if I were typing this I would probably stop mid sente

So are you bragging or complaining? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Neither. I knew we would end up making love within two dates. Just didn't think the whole "let's get to know one another without the sex thing would work." But, no complaints.

In fact, we had another wonderful weekend, I took her to the beach and got a suite overlooking the water. The temp was in the mid 70's and sunny so the weather was gorgeous. We spent Friday, Sat, Sunday, and Monday together. I think we are getting to know each other in many other nonsensual good ways even though we still make love often. Kinda feels like we are just sliding into things. No set pace, or regimen. Kinda cool.

We met again yesterday night. Another fantastic time together, she told me that she feels a connection with me that is very very rare. I agree with her, it seems funny because she will give me her whole schedule for the week,like, "I am going out with the girls this day, or chilling at home that day". And then she will send me pictures to prove to me she was doing what she said she was. Wierd but whatever. We also speak on the phone daily,sometimes for hours.

Most of my previous concerns seem mute now. Everytime we see each other we seem to hit it off great, and every time we leave we cannot wait to see each other again.

is she still dating and having sex with other men?

mlhb

Well, she never said that she was dating or having sex with other men. What she said was that she was not ready to committ to me. Either sexually or otherwise.

She since told me that she is not seeing anyone else, and has not slept with anyone since her last boyfriend several months ago.

This woman lost her virginity at 25, so its not like she has had a smorgasboard of men. Or so I think. I mean, now that I know her a bit more it just doesn't seem like it. It bothered her that I was able to seduce her on the first date, she has stated so a few times in the past. But there is an electricity about us. She turns me on not just because of her looks, but because of the way she makes me feel. Her intelligence, zest for life, and the way we complement each other. Those things just drive me nuts for her, and I guess my best way of expression is an intense desire to make soft and passionate love to her. Which she has grown to accept and thoroughly enjoy.

Strange relationship, I know, but it seems to be working.

I have been dating around for some time and have found the following to be about true when considering the question "Is she into me?"

First, I must note that I am not famous, I am not fabulously good looking, and I am not wealthy. So, I have none of the big three that attract women to varying extents.

There are a huge number of single, available, women in my age range in the big city where I live. Approximetly, 60% have no interest at all in dating me. Of the remaining 40%, about 20% do not interest me for any of a number of reasons. So now, I am down to the last 20%. Half of these women will date me for up to five dates and then dump me. That leaves 10% left. Eight out of ten of these women will decide somewhere in the first or second month of dating that they are into me enough that they want to have sex. I always wait for them to bring it up. Always.

So, I conclude that 1 out of 12 single, available women in my age range are definitely very into me.

So what's the question? You are dating somebody, and she is not what you are looking for. Move on.