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I lost a lot of respect for him yesterday after that disgusting act. It was a loss x2 thanks to OWH. His pain hurt me too.
I don't know why I even still care about H. Yesterday should have been IT for me but it wasn't.
I guess someone knows something I don't. That means Plan B ASAP!
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I know it was very hurtful yesterday, but that is just how the WS operates. We have even had some husbands bring the OW to the hospital while wifey was giving birth. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT??????????????
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Oh that is TERRIBLE! I didn't know WS's did THAT too!
I'll internalize yesterday eventually. It will be filed in the proper place.
He wasn't triumphant in his exit since he was so trounced by my attorney.
BB was so funny earlier with the "hot attorneys" being an oxymoron thing!!!
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Charlotte - You really HAVE to detach a little. All BS's need to do that. If things are taken personally, it makes it so much harder. I took everything to heart at first, but after reading so much craziness here, I don't anymore.
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You're right, believer. In some ways I'm getting better about that but in others not so good.
I will have to work on that a lot harder. I guess B will pretty much take care of it pretty well. So I just have to worry about the interim, I guess.
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Do you think it would help me detach if I packed away mementos of us and little things around here that hurt me to look at them?
I was going to do this but I don't know if I should wait or do it before H shows up.
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I packed up all my mementos and pictures too. They were too hurtful to have around.
Also, I cleaned the house spotless, decluttered, organized and changed everything around. When my WH came over, he didn't recognize the place.
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Good idea. I'm going to work as hard as I can before H shows up.
I don't know where I will put it but I'll find a place. We are out of room in every nook and cranny around here.
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I started to take down mementos already. There's a display case that we bought while antique shopping one time and it has all of our wedding mementos in it. My bouquet, the men's lapel flowers (I'm not going to try and spell that word!) Invitations, the candle, napkins, stuff from our 2nd honeymoon...and there amongst that stuff is the hood ornament from the van we had that H loved so dearly. He almost cried when we couldn't keep it or afford to fix it and had to donate it to Goodwill.
I'm like...gee...I'm not a hood ornament...I'm a living, breathing human...
I know. There I go again.
Okay then. I'll just think about my attorney instead.
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Okay then. I'll just think about my attorney instead. Hey Charlotte! It's Friday morning over here and I just finished my workout... Didn't see any Italians in skimpy shorts.... They normally don't work out in the mornings... I guess it's too cold for them to wear their skimpy shorts! Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I'm back on the Night-shift if you have problems sleeping tonight... Semper Fi, RIF
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Hi RIF!
Thanks, I probably will have trouble again.
No Italians? Darn!
LMAO to the skimpy shorts comment!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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Hey Charlotte!
The Italians don't like to get up early in the mornings... I hardly ever see any of them in the mornings.
They pack the gym in the afternoons though... that's why I usually just go running.
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The Italians chase you out of the gym?
That bad, huh? Darn.
There goes my dream of Italians in tiny gym shorts dancing in a row as I sleep!
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Hey Charlotte,
When the gym fills up with Italians, it start to get really stuffy and smelly in there... I guess they don't use deoderant like most Americans do...
So how are you doing this evening?
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Ugh!
I am hanging in there. Trying not to think about H and if he is thinking about me.
I am trying to mentally prepare for Plan B. And I'm packing up all mementos and pictures so I don't see them and feel pain.
I think I'm gonna have to rent another house just for all of the mementos!
It's been up and down this evening emotionally.
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Well, RIF, I am getting kinda sleepy now.
You and those doggone Italians done wore me out!
I am going to try to sleep. No guarantee that I'll stay asleep so there is a chance you'll see me later.
Have a great day!
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Hey Charlotte!
I'm sure he's thinking of you... he's in a battle right now between you and the OW...
The good thing for you is that you pretty much already know the outcome! You know that most A's end. You know that exposure brings A's to a quicker end.
You've done a great job with exposure, and you're doing a great job with your Plan-A... if you need to go to Plan-B, then by all means, do so... there are lots of folks here that can help you get a good Plan-B letter ready...
Hang in there! You're doing great!!!
Semper Fi,
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Multiple A's that ended '90 Rebuilding In Faith since then...
Currently deployed to Iraq, but TEXAS is Home!
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Thanks, RIF.
Your post was just what I needed this a.m. when I woke up. I was dreaming but I don't remember the dream this time. I don't remember H being in it.
I thought it was Monday at first and then I realized it was only Friday.
I guess I'll wake up a bit more and resume packing memories away.
I'll get into Plan B soon so I can feel better. Melody told me that after a couple of weeks you feel so, so, so much better. I am looking forward to that.
And if it doesn't help H to "snap-to" I will have to live with it.
I know I will be better and that's what's important.
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Good Morning Charlotte! And if it doesn't help H to "snap-to" I will have to live with it. uhhh... I'd say that YOU will be fine! It's your H that will have to "Live With It" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Seriously, You will make it through this and you will be fine... You keep taking care of yourself and protecting your love for your H. It may take a while for him to 'snap out of it'... but if you're reading the WS handbook, they will 'snap out of it' at some time... especially after a great exposure! Hope you have a great day today Charlotte!!! Semper Fi, RIF
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