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I don't know about the light at the end of the tunnel, but you are right, life will go on and we will keep walking with one foot in front of the other no matter how painful. And when this chapter of our life is closed, we will have LEARNED so much and become BETTER people. No longer will we take LOVE for granted. We will understands the dynamics of relationships better and will be more willing to roll up our sleeves and work for it. Actually I always was, but I was knaive enough to believe so was my H. The innocence in us is probably gone, but for me, the depth of loving someone or wanting to love someone is stronger than ever. I've been meaning to tell ya this morning..THIS IS GREAT INSIGHT...I recommend for you to write this down in a journal so that you can refer back to it during your stinkin thinkin episodes...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Will do.
Hey can I ask you if you had time to read the note I sent WS on the ecard. Was it too mushy?
I am getting excited about my appt. with Steve. After reading your postings on your sitch I feel a little more lost.
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And thank you for the compliment.
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After reading your postings on your sitch I feel a little more lost. Why? What do you mean? I didn't think your card was too mushy.
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You worked your Plan A while he was at home. Right now, I have such limited contact with him and my life is really actually moving on I can't fit into Plan A as easily. In 10 days I have had virtually no contact and I am not sure what to do about it.
I guess I am really following your instruction and focusing on me. Maybe it's a certain withdrawal.
What do you think?
I'm not giving up at all, I just am frustrated that I can't do more and almost don't have the energy to do it.
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Why haven't you asked him to meet you to work on the Frisbee stuff?
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He isn't returning my calls.
I sent him the email. No response.
I was going to visit him at work on Monday or Tuesday morning and bring him those CD's that I bought him. And ask him then.
And partly because this week has been so wacky. When I talked to him on Wednesday, he was absolutely the WH and that's when we talked about getting the fields for his lacrosse team.
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What happens if you leave an assertive message: "I really need for you to call me as soon as possible."
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I could try that. I just haven't ever done it.
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When he finds out its only to get him to play frisbee with me, that will not make him happy.
Actually I am wondering if I should wait to do that and talk to Steve first and really get my plan in perspective and on course again?
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When he finds out its only to get him to play frisbee with me, that will not make him happy. PLAN A is about YOU..remember? Meeting his ENs...ADMIRATION...getting his help...RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP..you can have FUN together..PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS...he will get to see you...AFFECTION..you will take his hand...hug him...tell him you love him.. GET IT? How do you know what's gonna MAKE HIM HAPPY?
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Actually I am wondering if I should wait to do that and talk to Steve first and really get my plan in perspective and on course again? Calling him will not hurt..you can speak to Steve about his response..I'm suggesting for you TO DO something rather than stew in your thoughts....ACTION always helps STINKIN THINKIN... After my workout, I'm gonna buy a NEW WREATH for the front door...I love NESTING... How's the apartment coming along? You've got to get ready to invite him over there...
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Ok, Let me reread what you are saying and see what I can figure out.
The apt is done actually. Other than everyday cleaning, the bathrooms are decorated, pictures are hung, and the bedroom is set up with lots of empty space for him.
If I was going to be around this weekend, I would invite him over. But I will do that next week.
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I guess there is just a part of me that is TIRED.
I'm just plain TIRED.
I'm worn down emotionally and physically.
Is there a way for me to call him and tell him that I am sorry he won't be with me tonight and be setting up the bridal faire. I always enjoyed doing that with him.
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
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I called him and invited him to come and help me set up tonight. He said he couldn't right now, and talked to me for a few minutes, but then hurried off and said he would call me back.
Guess what - he hasn't called back.
But I tried.
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Good for you Queenie, that has to stick in his mind.
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SELF-ESTEEM..
Feel GOOD in knowing that YOU did the RIGHT and LOVING thing..
Work on getting to the place of BELIEVING that this is HIS LOSS of YOU..a WONDERFUL and SPECIAL WOMAN...
He is losing PRECIOUS time with YOU...
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Ok, I will work on that one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I even got to ask him about how work was going, but he had to go.
Thank you Mimi, I really NEED you today and during this time. You are keeping me so focused and I am trying so hard.
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Queenie, Ive been trying all day to figure out how I will answer your question from late last night (or was that early this morning?) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> I can answer you, I think, but I don't want to come across as trying to convert you. And that in itself brings up a dilemma for me, because it is something that Christians are actually told to do... I actually have a dear friend who is a rabbi in a Messianic Jewish congregation. I have attended their meetings and worship a few times as well. This guy and I have been studying the scriptures together for years and I stood up for his wedding when he remarried his wife after being divorced for almost 15 years. This group is both Jewish AND Christian in that while remaining true to their Judaic roots, they have embraced Jesus or Jeshua as Messiah. So I am not ignoring your question, just not sure how to proceed from here or if this forum is the place for it. And if I don't get back to you before tomorrow...Shabbat Shalom! Mark
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Hi Queenie-
Did you get downtown to greet your team?
How's the weather down "south" in your valley? Have you battened down the hatches? The winds might make things interesting at Qwest Field tomorrow.
I promise to watch-well, I promise to turn on the tv now and then to check the score and see what's going on. I really can't sit through a whole football game. I can't even sit through a whole quarter.
Now, if it was European football....
johnstwin-
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Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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