Aloha Everyone!

I love this thread. Not just a reunion but a walk down memory lane about how MB used 2B! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I agree with FH about the lack of patience on the board. While this in itself isn't new the general when this happens the tenor of the board becomes agitated and scares away some current, newbies and even vets. I have seen serious questions of MB's intent showing up. This isn't good.

In the past when trolls were ID'd, they were identified, given the opportunity via questions (not as much of accusations though they were some) after they were better identified (usually by the troll themselves), the threads continued but the discussion turned away from the trolls and in some cases the lack of attention drove the trolls away or even gave some trolls a change of heart. Either way....they left or changed.

Remember the recipe threads that started as a result of changing the trolls? LOL!!! I mean the subject changed and instead of engaging, we kept the threads going with other subjects. Good tactic.

My point is there was a more healthy respect for POVs while staying focused and giving good support. I wish that would be done more now.

Also, while I am on this 'roll' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ...... I wish direction back to MB info and MC/IC was given more often to give posters a better direction.

How can we encourage this?

JMHO,
L.

Hey old folks! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Haven't been on here for a while and thought I'd lurk a bit. But i still pray for everyone. So many new names.

Orchid, you hit it right in the head about how to get it back...

[q]In the past when trolls were ID'd, they were identified, given the opportunity via questions (not as much of accusations though they were some) after they were better identified (usually by the troll themselves), the threads continued but the discussion turned away from the trolls and in some cases the lack of attention drove the trolls away or even gave some trolls a change of heart. Either way....they left or changed.[/q]

I have to say, the way the board has changed is the biggest reason I have stayed away.

BTW - it's been a while since we got together (Orchid), got time in the next couple of weeks?

People have little patience with others and even less faith. To me, it seemed that some people were more interested in being right than helping those that need good advice. And that too many people seemed to infuse their feelings about their own situation into their "suggestions".

It just feels like there are too many bully's on the board and I'm not talking about people applying proper 2x4's. Just those that refuse to accept that someone else's experience would help better than their's. An yes the tone has changed considerably. It no longer feels like "ohana".

FWIW - I agree with the others FH, you're the best.

Well prayers to you all and I too miss many of the "old folks" Maybe a reunion is in order with the success stories and updates.

My wife and I celebrated our 24th last month thanks to all of the old folks here and MB principles. And our 25th is going to be huge!

Blessings to ya'll.

S&C <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Aloha S&C,

Congratulations to you and Mrs. S&C on your 24th.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

My new fav place to eat is Enfuego's. Check out the website: Enfuegohawaii.com. It's in Kapolei. Yummy stuff. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Knewjie and [H] were out here in Nov celebrating their 10th anniversary. We had a blast.

Sure would love to meet up with you laters. SIL is coming to visit next week & nephew coming EOM. So w/b a bit busy but will let you know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Aloha to you and your family,
L.

Wow, it sure is a lot of old folks in here.

We will celebrate our 32 anniversary next year. Our son is getting married exactly 3 months from today.

((((Susan))))

I can't wait to MINGLE with you one day.

Didn't you just have a BIRTHDAY??

And CONGRATULATIONS on your son!!!

I sure did, which means so did YOU, right? I AM old so I can't remember, is it the same day? Dec. 4?

YES. We have the SAME BIRTHDAY. I thought so.

My body is OLD..ER..but my SPIRIT is YOUNGER... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

How about you? Still fishing?

naaaaaa....didn't you know by now Mimi that the sport of choice on MB is ..... Trolling!!!!


oh...shoot me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey Seasoned Veterans!

(doesn't that sound much better than OLD <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> )

I'm still a newbie compared to most of you guys... but I do remember seeing many of you when I first joined in May 2002. It's good to see everyone again!

I think that it's healthy and natural for seasoned vets to eventually taper off with their postings... I know that I don't post here very often or even lurk if I'm not deployed. Mrs. RIF and I are doing so well that to be honest, when we're together, the last thing that I want to do is come here and be reminded of the past.

I've noticed a huge difference in the boards since I first joined. FH stated it much better than I ever could. Now that I'm deployed again, I try to keep up with any military families that wander through... it's so tough to deploy when you're dealing with an A...

I try to stay away from the mud-slinging threads and "stay in my lane"... If you ever want to stop by for a "fun" thread, I'm running two Night-Shifts now: Idiotville and Acey's "20-90 Something Vacation Thread".

Again, it's great to see everyone again...

Semper Fi,

RIF

No! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> No fishing right now. They need to do some work on our dam so the lake is waaaaaaaaaay down right now. Hopefully by this spring. Hubby and I have yet another new hobby. We have taken up bike riding and apparently <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> vintage bike collecting. Several old bikes have appeared around here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

WOW! Now I remember about the bike riding. Are you having some MEMORY ISSUES, too, Susan? That sounds like lots of fun..better than my H bugging me about jogging with him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Keep poppin in sometimes..

Better yet...Ask Pep for my email...

Mimi, email me.

Will do, Susan! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hello K,

Long time no see. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Had to come out of retirement to say hi to you and many other "old timers" that seemed to show up.

K, I am glad that things are going well with you and your family. It seems to me this site needs a refresher on your story and the concept of "opportunity" that you so eloguently taught many of us here.

Things have changed here, but still this is a site that really does help people and it is so cool to see you and others come back from time to time.

Must go, but wanted to tell you and others what a pleasure it was talking with you all.

God Bless,

JL

Hello JL!

Good too see you drop by. Indeed---we do seem to need a refresher course on MB principles around here... and LOL at 'opportunity'. I remember that you were pretty tickled with that phraseology.

Enjoy your retirement time---and if you do choose to come back, it'll be a good thing as far as the board is concerned.

Best wishes and God Bless you!

Hi K,

I told Miss M how much we MB posters who have recently suffered A's (and somehow stumbled onto MB) appreciate you 'seasoned vets' (great term, RIF) for popping back in to help out during a difficult time.

JL.....did you see all the sentiments shared towards you when you departed to your retirement? Hopefully, your cameo appearance will be a re'fire'ment back to helping us...maybe not as often or much as you did previously, but hopefully occasionally. PLEASE? Don't wanna beg you but.....well, yes I do:

On behalf of us MB newbies and rookies and wannabe-vets-in-training, I'm appealing to all of you seasoned MB Vets to stick around at least until RIF gets back in early January. He was able to stay above the fray and provide constant care to the hurting newbies who graced our cyber screens in droves recently and continue to do so.

Sorry to intrude on your reunion so I'll depart with one more word of gratitude.

[color:"blue"] THANKS![/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Ace

Hey....where'd all the 'seasoned MB Vets' go? Is the reunion over? If so, please know that you're invited to come back anytime, even for a cameo drive-by. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

.......And if you're ever digging around in the MB archives and stumble across a post with your recovery story on it, please link it to (or post it on) the Successful Stories thread (which I'm going to attempt to keep on page one or page 2.)

Again,
Thanks,

Ace

It would be nice if they hung around longer than it takes to complain that things aren't the same anymore wouldn't it Acey.

Hi BK,

RIF used the word 'seasoned' and I think its multiple meanings are appropro.

I am one of the many who have benefited from MB the way it was in 2007. But I appreciate the 'seasons' that have passed, creating the foundation for its future.

To some, it's the season of growing beyond and moving on. I respect that.

For others it's a season of reminiscing for the old days.....we all do it and I don't begrudge anyone for it.

And for others, it's a season for prompting, to try to help facilitate solutions......and if it's perceived as "complaining that things aren't the way they used to be", then so be it.

Either way, I have no reference before this time last year when I discovered that my copy of HNHN (that I had 'accidentally' found on a bookstore shelf) listed this web site....and it's changed my life and our marriage in a thunderous way. For that, I'll be eternally grateful. (You, BK were one of those who helped me a lot when I first arrived and I appreciate all you've done and all you continue to do.)

For even others, especially newbies, some might need a little of the 'way it used to be' for one reason or another. That's why I'm hoping a few of the 'seasoned veterans' drop on back into affair-busting-cyber-world to lend a hand. If they chose not to, however, that's oK..........our 'seasoned' buddy RIF will be back after his R&R....and like Miss M says, RIF IS A ROCK around here. Plus we still have many vets sticking around to help out, just not as many 'seasoned vets' as in the past. With the number of newbies increasing, all help is needed.

A final sentiment regarding 'seasonings' could refer to the variety of flavors inadvertantly added by various posters here. Like Miss M said, some are warriors, cheerleaders, exhorters, lambs (and I can't remember the other descriptions off hand, sorry). Just like with food prep seasonings, it's often difficult to strike just the right balance.....so all are needed at one time or another, but possibly not all at the same time or in the same place simultaneously.

Regardless, I hear what you're saying BK, but I have a little different perspective. Hope it makes a little sense.

Thanks,

Acey

I understand and agree to a point Acey. But only coming back here to complain is pretty self serving IMO. Roll your sleeves up and help!