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GRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrr...........now what do I do??
I was upstairs helping DS clean his room, come back, & there's voicemail on my phone - it's H.
Listen?
Give IM pw/have her listen?? HELP!
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We had our adult son living with us while he got on his feet. ONE house rule NEVER to be broken "Do not drink alcohol in this house ever." He did We said: "You have 10 days to move." Son said: "Waa waa - not my fault - waa waa - not fair - waa waa - gimme another chance - waa waa- you're not reasonable..... on and on Mr & Mrs Pep: "We have made our decision. 10 days." He moved out vowing to never speak to us again He came over the first time we invited him to dinner - <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and he respects us more than ever
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But maybe he wants to reconcile, per my PBL? OK, Mel, you call me & I'll give you the PW to my VM. OK?
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I can't erase it. I have to get "into it" in order to erase it, and I've already demonstrated I don't have the discipline I'm supposed to.
Just sayin'
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He is MAD coz you were "not nice" to his momma
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I know, most likely that's true, but if I go into VM it'll have to play a bit first before I can erase it, and we all KNOW I won't just stop at the first sound of his voice. So...
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walk away from the phone and go eat a cookie
his message is gonna be GARBAGE TALK spoken directly from the can
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OK...back to help DS w/his room then. But seriously, anybody willing to listen to it (cuz MAYBE it's him saying SOMETHING that will start RECOVERY) then please email me: yellahoss@gmail.com & listen to it. Or, I could just have IM listen. Maybe that's best. I'll check in here/email from time to time.
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But maybe he wants to reconcile, per my PBL? OK, Mel, you call me & I'll give you the PW to my VM. OK? email me at ohmelodylane@aol.com and I will call and listen and erase it.
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Also, if he does want to discuss reconcilation, he needs to call your IM so she can negotiate contact and test his sincerity.
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Well, it was NOT anything to do with recovery. It was a complaint about you not talking to him and about the state of the mortgage. It was FOGBABBLE!! Very, very glad you didn't listen!
Anywho, any chance I could speak to your IM and help her formulate a response?
I am VERY PROUD OF YOU for not listening to the message!!
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When you have a chance, Mel, let me know how she did?
I feel bad about MIL. It's not her fault she's ignorant. It IS her fault H started drinking at 14, and continued while under her roof, but we're all growed up now. Time to move on.
I do hope I have the opportunity to make ammends. Not now, it wouldn't be sincere, but hopefully someday. I'm sure that was hard for her to hear after all these years of pretending, like the rest of us. I've NEVER respected that woman yet, I don't feel good about making her feel like crap. Maybe in so doing, H saw things a little differently? Time will tell.
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart, for your help. We're going to be OK. I'm going to file these papers, I am. Maybe WE won't lose OUR house. Thank you.
Thank you.
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Julie... just a suggestion here... And the vets need to chime in...
You're in plan B right? You can get his number blocked... He will still be able to call you but not from the number you block... Makes it a pain in the butt for him to call and leave nasty messages... He'll have to go to someone elses phone or a pay phone to call you... And you can set your phone up not to take phone calls from numbers that don't have an ID...
If he's sincere about meeting your plan B requirements he'll find a way to tell you... I.M. for one... Letter... Calling you from a pay phone...etc...
Just a suggestion...
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D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
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Hey Amazin, I wish it were true...but I've got VZW & I can't block ANYTHING! I tried, online thru my account & by the phone itself - nothing. Early on he was texting me non-stop & I was trying to block those, to no avail. At least I can delete those w/o opening though.
Sounds like my IM is fixin' to set him REAL straight.
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VZW?
It can be done... you may have to pay to have it done but it can be done...
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D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
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Her IM is going to let him know that Julie did not get the message and that anything he needs communicated should come through HER. Otherwise, Julie won't get it. Julie's IM is one smart cookie who has balls, guts and can see through bullcrap a mile off! lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> And she is SWEET AS PIE! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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