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Re: Peace is hard to come by.
thegoodfight #2010735 02/02/08 03:51 AM
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The physical affair started in October. I'm unsure when the emotional affair started, although I intent to ask soon. It was with a contractor that was temporarily working in the same office. She says he's no longer working there.

Found out today that this isn't the case. It's with a current coworker/friend. One that she carpools with ( with his wife as well nonetheless) almost every other day. As well, he was a friend of mine. Not a great friend, but someone I considered psuedo-close.

freaking ARGH. Infuriating. As well, I'm struggling to determine if I should say anything to the OM's spouse.

I found out 30 minutes prior to leaving for my interview for a new job. My head was so wrapped into my own [censored]. I'm shocked that I was able to interview as well as I did. It was truly a feat of amazing proportions.

BS (me) : 33yo WW: 34 yo married 7 yrs 2 sons: 4 & 2.
Re: Peace is hard to come by.
thegoodfight #2010736 02/02/08 10:19 AM
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a lot going on for you...
1. work on yourself.. a. your career
b. your physical shape
the old timers here will tell you about what you can expect
ref. If your wife still sees OM
and what your chances at recovery are
affiars are a DRUG.. and if she is still seeing OM AND talking about your future together she is TRIPPIN..
its called "the fogg"..because the WS cant see or think straight.. anyway.. keep us informed
take care of YOU and the kids
JB
Re: Peace is hard to come by.
jerseyboy #2010737 02/02/08 10:39 AM
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Sounds to me like you either have a still active affair going on, or your WW is going through serious withdrawal. It could also be possible that she has simply not accepted that it was over. You should not listen to a thing she says right now, nor should you make any important decisions.

YOU HAVE TO TELL OM'S W! Do not hesitate to do this. There is no valid reason you can give that will justify you not doing this, so do it. It will quite likely help your situation in many ways.
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