first another plea for people to post prayers and encouragement on this thread:
Please welcome my friend Please give her your support even in her quietness.
and an update:
I didn't want to put the update in her thread...
She is having a bad day today trying to take this all in.
she confided in me about how WH in oct re-financed some property they owned where HIS PARENTS are currently living and took out as much equatiy as he possible could and then changed the title so that only my gf's name was on it (because he was about to enter some real estate deal and he didn't want his name on that property). we are talking a lot of money here. money he then used first to pay off credit card bills that he has been accumulating and then to pay off HIS car as well as the DD's car which just so happens to be in HIS name, but left her car still with a loan because the money ran out.
their main property has also been repeatedly re-financed and therefore does not have much equity in it either.
so not only is she watching her marriage crumble, she is now seeing how bad financially she is.
how do i respond to that? i'm so angry!!!
i'm not feeling pro-marriage now at all. given all of the above, should i be??
i strongly advised her to immediately secure any finances she can. they have always had some seperation of finances, really the major hole is credit cards, she has one in just her name but there is a joint one out there. i am hoping she takes my advice and gets that thing cancelled immediately before he trys to take some sort of cash advance. he is running out of funds, he is not currently employed.
i'm bothered because i no longer want to encourage her to save her marriage, i mostly bit my tongue but it was hard.
my head knows that is HER decision alone. and unless she makes that decision the best thing i can do as her friend is to help her stay the course. right??
i'm just so unsure right now?