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#2031578 03/10/08 02:25 PM
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Despicable. He busted prostitution rings and now he's a client? He was with a high-$$ call girl the night before Valentine's Day? And the best is ... he's now apologizing, why? BECAUSE HE GOT CAUGHT! Ughhhh... Sickening. I SOOOO feel for his wife. How humiliating.


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Well, like our mayor here in LA, I wouldn't be a bit surprised if this gets swept back under the rug where it was before the story broke.

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This is the same dude who wanted to give illegal aliens driver's licenses, right?

Seems as though his sense of right and wrong might be a tad out of kilter, eh?

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I'm so disappointed. Spitzer was someone I honestly believed in.

Maybe he'll redeem himself.

His targeting seems suspicious.

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He has admitted to doing this, so redemption is unlikely for at least the prostitution part. They are looking now at where he got the cash - there is some suspicion that it might be public funds.

It's been reported he wasn't actually the "target" of the investigation, but was actually caught by happenstance apparently. The wiretap was reportedly not for him, but for something else and they got him in the works.

We will probably know more as details come out.


I would absolutely hate to be his betrayed wife. And I feel terrible for his daughters. This family is going through a very public d-day, and his wife's heart must be broken. I wish MB could reach her.

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In the photo of him and his wife on foxnews.com, she looked absolutely hearbroken.

And, yeah, where did the money come from. These gals apparently cost anywhere from, I think, $1K to $3700 per "call"!

I feel so badly for his family!


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2Long, at least the TV station did the right thing and fired the mayor's OW!


"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"

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Indeed. But I wish our city would fire our philandering mayor. He's a repeat offender. I hope his BW takes him 2 the cleaners.

But I'm sorta p.o.'d. He pretended 2 be supportive of our historic district and the Southwest Museum, and I hear tell he's involved in a move 2 lift a moratorium on building high rises in our neighborhood. If he succeeds, I'll take our historic home apart and reassemble it elsewhere!

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His targeting seems suspicious


The guy gets busted on an unrelated phone tap and shows a prior history with the same escort service. Give me a break. .

I am a believer that the character of a man is best shown as he stares down his self-made abyss. By taking the coward's way out, dragging his poor wife in front of the cameras in a pathetic attempt to win sympathy, he PROVED THAT HIS POlITICAL CAREER IS PARAMOUNT TO HIS MARRIAGE. To me this demeaning stage appearance far overshadows the sexual betrayal.


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He has 3 teenage daughters. My heart breaks for them. They must be mortified.


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By taking the coward's way out, dragging his poor wife in front of the cameras in a pathetic attempt to win sympathy, he PROVED THAT HIS POlITICAL CAREER IS PARAMOUNT TO HIS MARRIAGE. To me this demeaning stage appearance far overshadows the sexual betrayal.
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I don't see why the wife had to get up there with him........I wonder whose idea that was.....it didn't work for me either, I thought it made him look like more of a creep.......to expect her to endure further humiliation.

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I think his wife looked capable enough to not be dragged anywhere. She's a big girl that made her own decision to be there.
He's a scum bag...but let's not assume that she is without any power.

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Before D-day, I was considered a strong and independent girl capable of "making my own decisions." After D-day, I was a shell of my former self.

Shock, confusion, disbelief...extreme pain and anger, yet wanting my "H" back and willing to do what it takes...lots of confusing emotions and very little clear thinking.

Perhaps it is different for different people, but D-day left me feelings powerless and devastated. Looking back, I did many things that were not wrong, but certainly weren't strong.

I think one day she will look back on that press conference and feel even more degraded, unloved, uncherished and hurt after realizing that her WH would allow her to stand there and face a crowd of reporters at such an awful time.

I'm disgusted both by the story and his appearance before the press, and I hope he is prosecuted to the full extent of the law.


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The guy gets busted on an unrelated phone tap and shows a prior history with the same escort service. Give me a break.

No way! The question is fair play and is a separate issue from any satisfying name-calling of Spitzer you might want to get into. I'm not defending him. His political career has taken a precipitous fall. I'm disappointed and clearly he should resign.

I also believe that politically-motivated Federal investigations and prosecutions are a bad thing, and this story has some things about it that seem weird. It's fair to question the investigation given the track record of Junior's DoJ.

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I think his wife looked capable enough to not be dragged anywhere.

Yeah! And since when do we come down on people for not trying to protect their marriages and families? Weird.

But man do I feel for Silda Wall Spitzer. She looked like I imagined she feels right now. Every other footage I've seen of her, she's this beautiful smiling woman.

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She's a big girl


Agreed.

A big girl in the maelstrom of her husbands doing. She did have a choice, but may be under so much stress right now, and confused, hurt, shocked, that she MAY be going thru the motions set up by some legal representative to her husband. Regardless, big girl or not, her husband is a coward to not face that crowd alone. HE'S a big boy, yes?


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that she MAY be going thru the motions set up by some legal representative to her husband. Regardless, big girl or not, her husband is a coward to not face that crowd alone.
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That was the point I was trying to make...whose ever bright idea it was to have her up there with him made a mistake IMO.

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When watching the news, I could see adultery in his face.
Amazing when you have been through this crap so much that you can even recognize adultery in the facial features/demeanor of someone.
It may sound crazy, but I can see it.

I agree with you nia, he was a coward to have her standing next to him. She probably agreed, but not on her own. How dare "anyone" ask her to do that at such a vulnerable time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

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I was so horrified to see his poor wife standing there next to him... The look of anguish and shock on her face was so obvious.

And then they kept replaying the file footage of them with their three daughters, all smiling and happy, not having a clue of what their dear old dad was up to... How awful it must be for them, having to go to school the next day and face questioning looks from everyone.. Ugh...

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