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I have been married for a year now and it is my and my husband's second marriage. We each have a son 12 and 18. His 18 year old son is ruining our marriage. He is lazy, selfish, and only cares about what he wants. He just graduated high school last week and hasn't even thought about getting a job for the summer or even tried to do anything towards going to college. My husband has just given up trying to do anything telling me all the time that he just won't listen to him and to what ends should he keep arguing with him. It's so frustrating to me and we end up in an arguement everytime over him. My step-son has a girlfriend that comes over all the time and I'm pretty sick of having her here all the time as I have to make food for us and her and she doesn't even offer to help and she comes over wearing short shorts and sometimes clevage showing and it makes me so mad. We have told him to tell her not to dress that way when she comes over as my son is 12 and starting to get curious about girls and I feel bad that my husband sees her, too. My step-son looks at porn on the computer and my husband does nothing to stop it. I've tried to set up the parental controls but have not been successful as I see the sites he goes to on the history in the computer. He smokes pot and is sexually active with the girlfriend. I feel like a nobody in my own house as no one listens to what I want and I believe this is an important issue to correct. I'm so frustrated at my husband for being such a passive parent. It is ruining our marriage. I know that if it was my son that was the 18 year old and was doing the same things his son is doing he wouldn't like it.
Can anyone suggest what I might do? We want to go to counseling but just haven't found one. What can I do in the mean time?
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Good luck on correcting this issue. The boy is 18 and has apparently been allowed to be lazy, smoke pot, have sex and be a bum. I don't think you are going to "correct" this very soon.
He will one day move out and be on his own. I hope that you won't let him ruin your marriage.
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