I really need to hear some success stories. My h told me he was going to look for an apartment . He's been home for almost three weeks this time. last time it was two weeks. He first left in May. I've been trying plan A. He says he hasn't seen the ow but they have emailed. I'm really afraid. How do you cope with living alone. My youngest is in college and leaves next week. This is a second marriage for both of us and he was supposed to be my life partner. I'm fifty- two and the ow is about fifteen years younger than me.I haven't lived alone since I was twenty two. I can't imagine the emptiness of this house. I will have to sell it because I can't afford it alone and move to somewhere else. I'm very afraid of the future and just couldn't sleep. I believe in prayer and I know God is with me. Do these h or w ever realize what they are doing and make the right choice?

Yes! <P>Dr. Harley has a 90% success rate - have you tried calling him?<P>I think those guys who are in midlife crisis in addition to an affair have a tougher time. But I think prayers - support here on the forum - and no lovebusters are the best you can do at this point.<P>It is always scarey when we are facing change. <P><BR>

Hi again,<BR>Wow 90% success rate..that is amazing! Because Harley makes such sense. His theories are based on sound principle. Read everything here and take some time for YOU! Probablly have not done that in a long time, huh?<P>You can make it, I never thought I would, but I did...at least I am on the right road now. It is sooo hard, but the alternative ain't so grand either. Alternative meaning divorce, or worse...living in an unsatisfying marriage. Get his books, read here and do your work. You will make it.<P>Good luck.<P>------------------<BR>You will be stronger because of this.<BR>

While I was counseling with Steve Harley, I'd always bug him about that 90% rate (and his comment is "you know what you can do with statistics").<P>But hey, we're in that 90%. And I'm not even sure that Steve thought we'd make it for a while. But the program works---even if the marriage isn't saved.