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You went to court not long ago. Did they not establish support requirements then? If not, why not? If so, let your atty know.
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They did establish support, but its being set up that the state pays me and I am told that is a process and takes time.
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I just sent back the paperwork a week ago. This is the state.. Not my personal bankers who care if I am broke or not.
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Queenie, Stay on top of those folks like Cinders is telling you! Push the process! Also, really quick before my bathtub overflows,,, I was most worried about how I was going to pay for the cell phone, but that seems to be possibly working itself out. This is what I was talking about. Thanks for what we have. FAITH in HIS ability to deal with anything. His ability to PROVIDE for us,,,,,,,,even when WE don't see how it could possbily happen. I know it's in one of the Lion King movies, so I almost feel silly saying it, but it is so true - - Look BEYOND what you SEE. When we have faith in Him it means believing that no matter what the circumstance we SEE with our eyes & our own understanding, we Trust that HE is working beyond that and is MORE than capable. (((Queenie))))
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"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Queenie, I have worked w/ mass numbers of people in need - who needed my help before they could pay their bills or go to the grocery, I can assure you that most of the people who deal w/ child support are very conscientious. They have lots of technical stuff they have to do. Lots of people who call and whine or call and beg or call and are panicking. There have been many times when it pained me to not be able to relieve their critical need. But, they are probably trying hard to provide good service in a timely manner.
However, sometimes a call helps and sometimes it doesn't. But, when you call, try to be pleasant. People are usually not happy when they call the child support bureau.
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Ok, I'll call tomorrow. I am heading out for a walk to my AA meeting.
Thanks Cinders for keeping me honest and taking care of myself, even when I fight it.
Thanks Bugs for your reinforcement. Enjoy your bath, you have do earned it.
I'll be back later.
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Hi Queenie (JT waving from the sunny Skagit Valley)
I just wanted to say that I am praying for you.
I am soooo busy with YS's horse stuff. The fair is in two weeks. He has a "practice" show this week-end and a fund raiser for the NJROTC.
I am enjoying the interning though.
Hang in there. Our state may be slow, but they have teeth once they get everything put together.
Love ya'
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Hi Q,
Just stopping in to say HI. Too tired to post much tonight.
Sleep well my friend....
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12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented WH wants nothing to do with me
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Q,
How was your meeting tonight? I hope you had a safe trip to and from.
Heres something to remember. If someone asks you how your doing today:
Tell them "Its good, but better since I woke up alive this morning and I am standing verticle."
One of my cashiers tells customers that all the time and gets a smile every time.
Sorry about running off last night. But all of a sudden my eyes became very very heavy.
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Okay Queenie.... where are you kiddo???
Everything OK?
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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She's probably out by the pool. It's been wonderfully sunny here in the PNW.
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Hi PM,
Thanks for checking in. Actually I am doing ok. The Plan B thread that was going around shook me up abit and I lost hope for a little while, but I have been spending time with my sponsor and working through the last steps.
I am into the 12th Step... YAHOO..... I've almost completed my steps and will be beginning the steps through alanon. Can't wait.
No pool for me the last two days. I have walked yesterday and today and I was so tired this morning, we walked all around the lake, I fell back asleep.
Hi JT, I hope we can hook up soon.
It's not sunny today though, at least not yet.
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I am restless tonight, not sure why, but logged onto work and this is what I had....
Time =====
Time, whose tooth gnaws away at everything else, is powerless against truth.
~Thomas Huxley~
I pray that the truth of the WH's world come crashing down on him in G-ds time and that our family be healed because we can through G-ds will and miracles. And may that be G-d's will and match my own desires.
Good Shabbas Mark and Pretty
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I am glad you are ok Q~
I was starting to wonder.
Shabbat Shalom
Psalms Chapter 70
David prays that his enemies be shamed and humiliated for their shaming him and reveling in his troubles. Then the righteous will rejoice, and chant songs and praises always.
1. For the Conductor, by David, to remind. 2. O G-d, [come] to rescue me; O Lord, hurry to my aid. 3. Let those who seek my life be shamed and disgraced; let those who wish me harm retreat and be humiliated. 4. Let those who say, "Aha! Aha!" be turned back in return for their shaming [me]. 5. Let all who seek You rejoice and delight in You, and let those who love Your deliverance say always, "May G-d be exalted!” 6. But I am poor and needy; hurry to me, O God! You are my help and deliverer; O G-d, do not delay!
(I was reading and when I came unto this entry you came to mind about your WH)
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Hi Pretty,
Thanks for checking in on me. Second night in a row that I have tossed and turned the entire night. I'm exhausted and my soul is restless.
Will be staying a little closer to G-d, praying more.
But I'm trying to give the power of it away.
What's on tap for the weekend?
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Shabbat Shalom Queenie and Pretty...
This from Solomon at the dedication of the temple...
"Praise be to the LORD, who has given rest to his people Israel just as he promised. Not one word has failed of all the good promises he gave through his servant Moses. May the LORD our God be with us as he was with our fathers; may he never leave us nor forsake us. May he turn our hearts to him, to walk in all his ways and to keep the commands, decrees and regulations he gave our fathers. And may these words of mine, which I have prayed before the LORD, be near to the LORD our God day and night, that he may uphold the cause of his servant and the cause of his people Israel according to each day's need, so that all the peoples of the earth may know that the LORD is God and that there is no other. But your hearts must be fully committed to the LORD our God, to live by his decrees and obey his commands..."
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Hi Queenie, Second night in a row that I have tossed and turned the entire night. I'm exhausted and my soul is restless. uhmmm...what's up Queenie?
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I wish I knew....I just don't.
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I wish you knew what was truely bothering you queenie. I hate when someone is lost. Let alone be lost. and not sure of the known.
(((Hugs)))
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