Well, the deal with his cell is...

They pay for all BUSINESS related calls. He actually has to print out and highlight all calls each month that are BUSINESS related. I said that since THEY sent HIM to Canada, that those should count as "business calls" when he has to call home too... but we'll see if they go for that.

They don't pay his whole bill tho, just a portion.

He'll get a blackberry and the whole bill paid with his next promotion, probably next summer. Yay. A blackberry. Just what he needs...

E.

I've never had a boss turn me down for personal calls either. They were always very understanding, especially if out of country. WEAK.

This is not what we all dream of when we get married. That is for sure.

Isn't there a midnight showing of Rocky Horror somewhere nearby you can go to? Or a hotel by a lake or ocean? Do something for yourself.

((((((eeyoree))))))

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this.

Well, I just got to be the tooth fairy.

Our 9 yr old just lost one a couple hours ago.

Well, either you worked for Betty Crocker, or he worked for Hitler. He made it seem like there was just NO WAY in the past he could ever get a free second to call me. That it was UNREASONABLE of me to ask for a phone call a day from him while he was out of town. That I just didn't understand. (this is literally what he told me).

Now, I will give him credit. For this recent "out of town" stint... he has been VERY good about maintaining contact with me. But, not so much tonight. He knew that I was going to dinner with a friend adn then to dance class, and then would be home.

No, this isn't what I dreamt of M being.

Its now 10 pm in Calgary. Midnight here. Cell is still off, and he's still out-- or he's still idle online at least.

I think I might try calling the hotel room, just to make sure there's no answer. If he's in the room but not on his computer, something serious is up...

I doubt he's in his room, I think he's more out at a bar with a "client" that just happens to be female. Same ol' same ol'.

E.

I wish. I have to work tomorrow-- its a big day at work too, so I can't get out of it. I'm gonna be dead tho...

I'm just chillin' with my MB buddies, waiting for H to reappear...

Heck ya'll have stuck with me for the past how many hours? I at least owe you resolution to this story...

E.

AWWW!!!

How much did it cost the tooth fairy??

E.

Thanks for the support

E.

Just a buck!

I used to travel alot. Probably 40%. Didn't see my kids and wife. Missed Halloweens and birthdays. We have changed our lives.

I haven't traveled since December.

You know you travel alot when you know the stewardess's by first name. Now, I get to play tooth fairy. First time for me.

Great to hear.

H actually had the same position with a different company and traveled 98% of the time (literally). He was NEVER HOME. He'd come home late Friday night, and leave again Sunday after dinner (sometimes earlier). And then he'd "disappear" all week long, and I'd get the lines about how he "just didn't have time" to call, etc, and I was being unreasonable, etc.

After I totally withdrew from the M and was involved in my EA, he quit that job, and took the same position with a smaller company that promised him that he'd only travel up to 25% of the time-- it was in his contract, and they were gonna pay him more. It just so happens this year it occurs all at once. He really changed his attitude at first when he got the new job... but I was really too far withdrawn and too deep into the EA much to care by then. It obviously got to me and I bought it eventually tho-- I'm home, aren't I? Tonight was the last night I had to get through... and he pulls this crap.

So while we have time... (haha, at this rate, I got all night...)... what in god's green earth do I say/do when he does call? Sushi with the client had to have been over long ago, its now almost 10:30 there. No restaurant is open that late on a THURSDAY. So he's at a bar, for sure, somewhere. Nice. Who knows who with. And he'll lie and tell me a guy anyways, and how the heck am I ever supposed to know?

What do I say? I'm sure he'll have some "perfectly logical" explanation. He always did. Its just there's too many of them for it to have always been a coincidence...

Glad to hear you got your first experience as the "tooth fairy". Cute I think I only ever got quarters for my teeth, haha.

ETA: Now up to 4 hours and 36 minute idle...
E.

See, now at THIS point I'd be worried he had an accident or something. I hope he's okay.

(And if he DIDN'T have one, he'll wish he HAD, by gum!)

Charlotte

What to say?

hmmmmmm........

I'll need to think some more.

by gum! Why does he need to buy gum??

Yeah, I used to think the whole accident thing too. But then I got used to him "disappearing" all the time while out of town. And I stopped worrying about that because it was a million times more likely that he was just ignoring me or didn't care.

This isn't unusal for him. I put up with two years of this exact behavior, nightly. And bought all of his "explanations" of why he didn't/couldn't call.

Really it was simple, he just didn't care enough to call.

Plus, he doesn't even have a rental car there, apparently. He has been staying in a hotel close enough to the client that he just walks back and forth, and took a taxi from the airport.

Million to one odds he's out at the bar...

I wouldn't worry about an accident until tomorrow morning, if I hadn't heard from him. And even then, I think I'd suspect an accidental "staying in someone else's bed" than an actual accident.

Maybe I'm just cynical. It comes from literal YEARS of his disappearing acts and making me seem like I'm the crazy one for expecting a phone call while he's out of town...

E.

PS- 4 hours, 45 minutes. But who's counting? :crosseyedcrazy:

Seriously, what in god's green earth do I say to him when/if he reappears?!? If I said what was in my head right....

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.......you GOT me!!!!!

Oh, and BTW... I called his hotel room. No answer. So he's not in there... or at least smart enough to not answer... or too busy to answer...

E.

UGH!!! That just sucks!!!

I don't blame you for: , either.

I wouldn't know WHAT to say.

I would probably say, "You B******D!!!!!!!!!!!!" For starters.

He's probably drunk by now and will call you drunk or wait until the a.m., hoping you have cooled off by then. I'm just guessing here, though.

Charlotte

I think your million to one odds are right.

What to say after he's been drinking???

Your tone of voice is likely to say it all.

Do you want this to be the catalyst for him to come clean on everything? My bet is he is/has been hiding alot from you.

What do you want to come out of this?

Hmmm... that's quite kind compared to what I was thinking


While the drinking part in and of itself bothers me, its not as much as WHO HE'S WITH. Really, what client stays out until now 10:45 with their auditor, drinking, when they have to work the next day? Maybe I just don't get the corporate world...

Although, if he DOES decide to call tonight, I'm gonna get the same old song and dance, and I'd put my bank account that it gets turned around on me and is somehow all my fault... especially if he's been drinking. He's a little "looser" with his anger after he's been drinking.

I'll never know who he's with tho... he'll lie to me if he is out with some woman, because he knows it is grounds for immediate plan B (not that he has the first clue what plan B is, but I'm fairly confident I made it clear that this behavior is unacceptable and I will toss his @ss if it continues.)

He'll lie. What way do I ever have to find out? Unless I can find someone on MB from Calgary that wants to go on a hunt for me, right now...

At least I'll know (or should know) if he even comes home tonight. I'll just always doubt who he was with, especially since he turned his cell off and didn't bother to call all night. That just makes it shady, IMO.

E.