Hi,
My marriage is somewhat complex, due to the fact that my wife sends me strong signals.
There are months she's loving and attentive and there are months she's a monster, where she has "headaches" right before the minimal sign of intimacy, and would say cruel things like she hopes our two year old does not grow up to be like me.
Here's a little bit of history for those who are interested in providing some insight.
Me: 44
Her: 39
Kid: B2
Kids from previous marriage on my side:
B19
B16
She has to be the most "detached" person I've met in my entire life. Things like flowers are "cheesy" to her.
At times I believe she is a lesbian in the closet, because of some previous college friends who are declared lesbians. And here non-emotional approach. The only emotion she would display is anger.
I suspect she is having an affair, because there is always an hour or two she never accounts for, and when I ask her she says she goes to the park with the kid, but later she contradicts herself by saying the kid needs to get out.
She is a lawyer, so the term communication to her is distorted, its almost like interrogation, because she never admits to anything. Instead I have to be the one who tries to look for conversation.
She stays at home with the kid, I run a somewhat successful business so she doesnt have to get out and work, but a case here and there which she handles from home during the weekends.
The words "I love you" or any term of endearment are out of her vocabulary, instead she uses words like "fatso" and the such. (I'm 6'; 200lbs. so not that fat)
Over the years I have been gradually cutting back on attention, because it got to the point when she took it for granted. It used to be flowers every friday, dinner every sunday, movies on sunday night, dancing at least once a month plus gifts.
She once told me they didn't mean a thing, so I stopped and now the only come once in a blue moon.
Sex to her is like very distant. She is often rude and demmanding, and gosh-forbid if she doesnt reach a climax, she would tell me I'm no good on the spot.