This was one of my favorite threads to read when I was going threw my situation. Unfortunately, this poaster's situation ended in divorce as well, but I just wanted to bump this thread.

The thread was called "How do I stop the pain" (I believe she posted in "Just found out") and the poster called herself "Paradise Blue". She was an extremely eloquent writer and I can't tell you how much I enjoyed reading the tales of her life and times with her dog "Blue". All I could think of when I read her posts was that her husband REALLY must be suffering from a mental illness to walk away from her. I guess it gave me some self respect in that way. If someone could walk away from someone like her, it must not always be about us or what we think we are lacking. Anway, thought some of you newbies might enjoy it as well.


http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1454537&fpart=1


Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.