well... listen to this... my wife sent me an email this morning... saying that she doesn't want to be with me anymore... and is tired of my s**t, and says that i forget the simplest things. that she can't do it anymore...

so... it's hard to say... but my marriage is over. this has happened because of a simple little mistake that i did yesterday regarding some child pajamas... and she has gone over the edge with her reaction.

bascically... she sold to someone online some used pj's of our daughters... and yesterday we went to the mall before she went to work and got some new pj's with a gift card that she had.

well she had put the used pj's in a bag next the living room tv in a container for the hats and gloves of our kids.... at the same time... she had left the new pj's on the sofa...

well last night... my sister in law was over with her kids... and i was dealing with my kids... and when this person came over to pickup the sold pj's... i accidentally gave her the new pj's... my mind was so caught up with what was going on in my house that regards to the bag had gotten tossed in the back of my mind..

so when she got home... her mother told what had happened... then she came in the room and talked to me..(i was sleeping), and asked me why i did that... i told her it was a mistake.. she told me ... i showed you where i had put the bag... i am furious and i'm sick of your s**t. wo this morning she sends me that email...

i feel hurt, angry... fear.. and everything else...

she makes her self sound like she never makes a mistake


i was just talking to her on the phone.. trying to hopefully give one very last chance... and she doesn't want to. I told her, when i had mentioned about us separating for awhile, awhile back... she would tell me.. so you want to take the easy way out. i wasn't taking the easy way out... i was trying to make things work on an emotional level. so i told her now... that she is taking the easy way out... she said, how am i taking the easy way out? i have 3 kids to support and now i have to work my [censored] off. it's like she takes what i say to her, and turns it around to throw all the blame on me. she asked me what mistakes did she do in the past nine years? i continue to kick my self in the butt for falilng so fast for her... and rushing this marriage... it's just that the way she made me feel when we got togther, i had thought that she was the one, that she was on the same emotional level that i am... she percieves affection with me, etc... as kissing my [censored]. how is that? how can a woman percieve something like that, in that way..

i've started praying to GOD to help me let go... its just too hard for me to let go of her... my heart wants to keep fighting for her... but my mind says forget it.

and they only reason that she is still with me in our house, is because she has no place to go.

i'm a very sentimental guy... alot of my thinking is from my heart. she said... your feelings don't bring in money, they don't pay the bills. i know she has played with my mind to give herself the advantage... but the worst part is... i imagine her having another guy in her life after this... and it hurts so much. should i just start retraining myself to start living the single life.. but still be there for my kids? or do i just wait till everything is done with ?

Sounds like there is alot more to all this than the pj's. Give us a little more history. what has been going on for the last few years? I can't believe she would want to end a marriage with kids just over a pair of pj's. I also wouldn't give up hope!!! If you really want her you need to show her not tell her that you want to save the marriage!! Don't even try to talk about it right now just start making changes to show her you ARE the husband father and supporter that she needs you to be! Do not do anything for yourself that she can turn around and make it sound like you are being selfish! Also do not ask for anything in return for the things you are doing for her! Make it plain and clear you WANT to do these things just to make her happy! Also read up on what the love busters are and the love bank!

Is she having an affair?

If you read his posts on the EN board, it will shed more light.

I know there is far more to this than pajamas. Want2Know has a hard time seeing the big picture and acts like the latest indiscretion is the cause of it all. That's not true. His wife has gone a very long time without having her ENs fulfilled. It's true that she may be a bit on the bit***, judgmental side and needs her own help, but Want2know has been here for long enough to get some sound advice that he seems to be ignoring.

Which ever way you go, Want2know, dating is not recommended - or at least serious dating is not recommended for at least a year or two after divorce. You need to learn how to be a better partner before you can hope to have a successful subsequent relationship that can survive.

I think your best avenue right now is to do right by your kids, regardless of where you're living, and try to be a better parenting partner for your wife.

I think it's about time you went and talked to a lawyer about your rights and obligations.