Tonight my WH finally told me the truth about everything and I need to hear how others would feel, because I don't know what to feel myself. Tuesday WH told me he didn't use condoms despite knowing that she and her H were swingers. I brooded about it, and Weds. asked the OW if she had diseases (she said no) and when the last time she was tested and she told me she'd never been tested and it was none of my f###ing business. OWH then called me and told me that he was an inch away from putting an f###inggun in my face, threatened to go to my 13 year old daughters school to tell them I was a pyscho b### (I had been polite to her for the answers but yelled at her it was my business when she was f###ing my husband)said some other things and then threatened gun again. I hung up and called 911 and they came and took a report (I told the whole truth). OWH admitted the threat and I was told I could press charges (I declined because I was worried about what he would do to us then, forgot to mention they live across the street and 1 house over)and told me to get a no contact order. Fast foreward to tonight and WH told me that OWH had started the affair by asking him to have sex with his wife while he watched. He told me he had sex with her about 2 dozen times and that sometimes OWH would be getting a BJ while he screwed her (I do believe that no sex occured between the men, because OWH is homophobic) He told me that OWH got jealous toward the end and that he thought OW was falling in love with him, because of things she said to him and she would sneak to have sex with him at the end. I am happy that the truth is out, but I feel sick inside. I believe WH is remorseful and desperately wants to keep our family together. Part of me wishes that I pressed charges and reported them for having hundreds of movies that they illegally copy. I am definitely having revenge fantasies since I feel they are getting off scot free, but I have seen his feud with a neighbor and he is scary nuts to me. We can't move (we both wish we could) Should I get a no contact order and what is involved? Should I go to my DD's school and make them aware of the situation (OWH had my 13 year-old sign a contract to keep their
"secrets" and told her it was OK because he would keep hers His example was if she became a prostitute he wouldn't tell. He had 3 of his DD's friends sign one. I am certain my WH didn't know about this because he hit the roof when I told him, although he immediately cooled down when I told him who) I also know for a fact that the OW was allowed to pick up my DD from school in the middle of the day without them being aware of permission.
What do I do? What would you do and feel? I'm honestly terrified of STD's and waiting on DH's results. We always use condoms, but I did give him oral sex before I knew what was happening. We aren't having sex until his results.
