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 I sing about as well as she does....
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Last edited by QueeniesNewLife; 12/25/08 11:02 PM.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Aw Queenie, do you have that Big Hair?
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Aw Queenie, do you have that Big Hair?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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It's OK, I kind of like Big Hair.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Girl, you crack me up... It's not the hair....
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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I had that song as a ringtone on my phone when my DH was gone.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Hi Queenie, Looks like you are all having some fun around here. It's great to see. 
XBW
DS16 & DS22
PLAN D: finalized!
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Hi Queenie! Are you thawing out down south? We are one slushy, wet, mess up in the north end. SOOOO glad to see rain today! (How often does that happen in the PNW-that we are glad to see rain?)
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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Hi JT,
It's still SNOWING down here or now it's dry but it was snowing still today. We have probably over a foot. How much did you get?
Yes, I need the rain to come..... Wash this away so I can get out. I have horrible cabin fever.
How was your Christmas?
Luna, I'm learning that fun is a choice. Not one always so easy to make and then there are days when it's not a noticable choice, it just is. I so appreciate those days.
Take care of yourself on your journey. You'll be in my thoughts.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Just dropping in to say Hi! I can back up the part about Queen NOT having big hair!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle
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Hi Strivin....
Hey, do you you have time to post with me for a few minutes tonight. Something came up yesterday and I need your alanon input..
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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I posted to you on my thread...I was thinking about our talk and have some questions for you about the D...what stage are you in, etc?
I was thinking in regard to the silent treatment and how you can take back that control...
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle
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Hey Queenie,
Glad we got to talk to you last night. We've had a fun time. Cinder is the as charming in person as she is on the board. I haven't laughed so hard in a long time.
Will catch up later...
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Hi Queenie-
Guess what? I can see my lawn again!!
Hope things are melting down your way and that we can get together soon.
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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Hi Q,
I hope you're doing fine. Just stopping to say Hi!
Angie
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Hey Queenie,
Glad we got to talk to you last night. We've had a fun time. Cinder is the as charming in person as she is on the board. I haven't laughed so hard in a long time.
Will catch up later...  Good to talk to you. Take care.......more later. It's been a busy weekend. Gotta go to work in the morning. I think I better get off the computer.
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Hi Chai and Cinders, I'm so glad you two had a blast together. I had a wonderful time talking to you both this week, thank you. Hey JT, yes we are starting to see the green and brown again. It sure is pretty. This has pushed my plans back because I have to do some work that was unexpected, like going up to my boss's on Tuesday and then getting ready for the bridal faire. The plan was to have the stuff done by this weekend and I haven't even gotten the post cards. I hope we don't run out of time, but if we do, how about the first few weeks of January? Rin, I was thinking in regard to the silent treatment and how you can take back that control... I would love to hear more about this... Rin, after what we talked about do you think I might benefit from looking into a domestic violence support group to help me sort out and truly begin to understand what happened in my M? In terms of where I am at with D. I am legally separated and looking at hauling him back into court for not paying me the child support that was ordered.  Hi Angie, I'm so glad you started a thread to help you work through this and I see Mortarman has been talking to you. WOW, that is very cool. I don't have much experience with him, but I know what an amazing help he was with Mimi and she speaks very highly of him. My Skins lost their last game...  Ended up 8-8. Not a very good season. Oh well, on to next year.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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IMHO, I think that you need to get on with your life and D his happy "[censored]"et! That's the last thing he thinks that you will do...this way you are taking CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE and he doesn't have that control...I think that you are right to take him back to court...he make the bed, he needs to lie in it, whereever that may be! This is you taking care of yourself and the kids, this is not you punishing him...strictly business!
You may benefit from it...at least go and listen a few times...I did go to a few meetings...but my program helped me more...can't hurt none!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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You may benefit from it...at least go and listen a few times...I did go to a few meetings...but my program helped me more...can't hurt none! There is a jewish program called Dvora project.... I plan to call them this week or next week. It certainly can't hurt. I tend to agree with you on the D. I don't think he would be expecting that at all. The truth is I don't know if I EVER will be ready to be D from him, but maybe it's just something I have to do like Plan B and trust G-d to help me through it. I have to wait on my finances because if I file then it will cost ME instead of him. Yes, as soon as the New Year hits, I am so calling the A to get his butt back into court for child support.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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