Grabbed the car from under her, left the letter, have the kids with me, let's see where this goes...

All I know is she is going to be ballistic as she finds out!

Pray for me and the kids please!

When she goes ballistic, DO NOT ANSWER HER CALLS, DO NOT ANSWER THE DOOR WHEN SHE KNOCKS. PLAN B IS YOU AND SHE HAVING [b]NO CONTACT.[/b]

This is to save your well being and physical and mental health. This is to let you catch your breath and swing your life back to some semblance of normalcy.

Did you change the locks at your house?

That she still works with the turd does not bode well.

You are in our prayers.

Good luck to you. STAY STRONG and RESOLUTE!!

You are on the high road here.

kirk

Heart...you're in our

Take care of yourself and the children.

I second that...

Many thanks for all your support! It's tough!

Just got a call from the PD - she has reported her car "stolen". I explained that I took it, and that it is MY car, registered in MY name. They said then "no laws have been broken..."

She's desperately trying to call the kids on their cells now.

Being WW has moved out, and you can not verify NC, and she still works with OM then dam the torpedos and full steam ahead to plan B.

Be very careful that she doesn't confront you and then file a domestic abuse charge. I would stick around some friends until she cools down. We have seen it happen to other men here, an RO and the man put out of his home.

Ky kids are 12 and 10 and hopefully I'll always be around them so that they can see and report whatever happens.

Good. Just be careful. We have seen this one played out too many times.

The Mrs is furious right now, but it shouldn't last more than a couple of days.

How much do you think I should share with both kids about what is happening?

Also, should I restrict them receiving calls (on their cells) from WW?

I'm a big believer in being completely honest with kids. They sense dishonesty. They are plenty old enough to hear 'Your mom decided to have a boyfriend when she's still married. You both know we're not supposed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend when we're married. I'm asking her to give up the boyfriend so we can be back together as a family, and I have asked her not to contact me until she's ready to do that. She is probably going to be pretty mad at me right now, but I want to get her back, so I'm doing what I need to do, ok? If you have any questions, ask me immediately, any time of the day. If you want to say anything, you are the most important thing in my life and I'm ready to hear you. Now, you may be uncomfortable talking to her for the next few days, but she's still your mom and she still loves you. So just remember that. Tell her whatever you need to tell her; she will still love you, ok?'

If she tries to abuse the cell phones, to get to you or back at you, take them away. Tell your IMs how she can contact the kids. And be there to protect the kids from her garbage until she calms down.

My brother and I were 5 and 6 years old. I remember running to my moms bedroom with my brother, dropping the floor, looking under the door, and watching the other mans feet running to the closet. Your kids are smarter then they let on. All you will have to do is confirm what they already know. I hope your wife realizes what she is doing to her relationship with her children. They will come to know not to depend on her. They will love her but she will not have influence in their lives. There will be holiday dinners and big hugs. And talk about current events. But there will be a distance she will not be able to cross. There will be the standard confession of how "I screwed my life up and my relationship with you kids, I am so sorry". And they will say "We're over it" But that won't change the relationship. This happened when I was 5. I am 50 now.

Print this out for her and When you see her, give this to her. Tell her that you love her so much, you want to spare her from this.

Thank you OTH. I can see my kids already hating her in some ways, especially the older one (a boy). WW's theory is that I am "poisoning their minds" to be this way.

Sad, very sad, and still cannot believe I'm actually going through this...

As I said, please share my story. No one is poisoning their minds except her. I feel so much for your kids. I know exactly what they are going through. Tell her to look in their faces and see if she can remember how they use to look at her a few weeks ago. And how they look at her now. Tell her about the depression her children will have as they watch the two people who were their world fly apart. There very joy of life will be reduced. And if your wife does not come to her senses, they will look at life BS (before split) and AS (after split).

oth, you paint a very strong picture, but I'll give you the same schpiel I was given when I came here 2 years ago. People in affairs do NOT hear it. They will NEVER hear it until at the very least, they are no longer seeing the OM/OW. And then usually they still will not get anything until they have gone through withdrawals. And then, it may take another 6 months-year before it hits them over the head and they finally can see the world without that fog babble infusing everything.

Definitely use it. Just don't expect it to change anything.

I am sure you are right. But at this time, I think its about heartinpain doing everything he can to affect the situation.

That's fine, as long as he isn't expecting anything to happen from it, and gets more discouraged for it not happening.

WW entered the house this morning (I was expecting a cable guy) and met with kids. DId not listen to my disapproval. Wanted to take D10 out for breakfast with her. S12 refused to even meet her.

It is evident that your son is detaching from her. How blind can she be? This could also cause a rift between your D and S. If he feels that she is betraying you. I will give your son credit for sticking to his guns on this.

Hardly over 24 hours yet and there's tremendous amount of pain in me...

Any typical expectations of when to expect Plan B to have a significant impact on WW? There's this piece of me just dying for a quick fix, and everything to be okay.

I know WW is super pissed off with me! She told my D10 on the phone that "Dad is trying to destroy me with many bad things he's doing."