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LOL... Nope. His name was Rick Recht and back when this mess first started I listened to him all the time. His voice is very similar to Kenny Loggins and just soothes my soul.

I read this as Kenny Rogers... and started hearing a Yiddish version of The Gambler:

"You gotta know when to hold 'em,
know when to fold 'em,
know when to walk away,
know when to run...

you never count your money
when you're sitting at the table,
There'll be time enough for counting
When the dealing's done."

LOL

ETA: Wow!!!! That's an awesome email. It brought tears to my eyes. *HUGS* You are in my prayers.

Last edited by jayne241; 02/25/09 02:32 PM. Reason: Wow, just read the email you posted!

me - 47 tired
H - 39 cool
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(Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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Queenie,

Take advice and BE STILL....you have walked this path under God's will.....DO NOT try to "fix" this.

Pray Pray Pray....God has done a miracle in you...let Him work on your H now. pray pray pray pray pray pray pray


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Hi Luna,

I agree totally. Darkness has been my healing grace from G-d as hard as I have fought it.

I have managed to not say ONE WORD since March 17, 08 I understand how vitally important this is to just stay out and let G-d do what G-d is going to do.

And keep to my OWN backyard.

Pray for him, PLEASE...... pray


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LOL, Kenny Loggins..... You are too cute.

Pray for H, please pray for him. I'm in G-ds fold and shelter. I truly understand Kick how important it is to STAY OUT...

Please pray for H.... And G-ds will to be shown.

pray pray pray

Really when you think about THIS.. It's a miracle. Not necessarily the email, although its way beyond a MIRACLE....

But ME, Queenie ISN'T rushing to do ANYTHING... Just be still. And I'm SO OK with that.

I have learned so much and am so grateful.... for the journey because of who I have become...

MIMI, where ARE YOU?


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Wow Queenie. That's amazing. Did your daughter respond? I wonder if he wrote it knowing that she would let you read it.


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Queenie I am soooo pleased for you.....I'm sure you can't believe what has just happened....God does work miracles!!!!

He has definitely heard your prayers for your H...

I will keep you both in my prayers.....

Hang in there...

Prodigals do come home!! grin dance2 hurray pray

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Did your daughter respond? I wonder if he wrote it knowing that she would let you read it.
Nope, she hasn't responded. I asked her that and she said no, that she needed to think about it and that I could help her with her mind. But that she didn't know what to say.

I just reaffirmed to her that he had a place to come home to.

I'm not going to tell her what to say. This is her relationship with her dad.

I honestly don't know what he would think she would do. He does know we are very close now. I just have to stay out of the wondering. But please all of you wonder for me. And keep those prayers coming. pray for HIM..


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Prodigals do come home!!
He isn't home yet.

I'm not jumping to anything other than he reached out to ONE child and is going through SOMETHING.

I KNOW NOTHING.....

G-d does... please keep praying for HIM...... pray


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I'm just being optimistic grin

GOD ALWAYS HONOURS FAITH......


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Queenie -

The email sounds very sincere. If DD has faith, she can let dad know that G-d is a G-d of redemption and she will be praying that hubby can be restored to the man of G-d that he was before, the father, and head of the family.

I will be praying unceasingly for WH.

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Me too Hope. Me too.. So very MUCH.

Thanks Believer, I just emailed her that comment.

Thank you SO MUCH for the prayers.

I have to ask you what you think about this.. You know I had to ask at least. flirt


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What I think is that affairs almost always end, and then the WS turns back into their real selves.

I'm no expert, but the email is much different than the letters I got from my WH. He was always "sorry" and then there were a lot of buts - not a good sign.

Hope you have read the 8 cow wife story on TL's thread.

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One of my favorite versus is Joel2:25

וְשִׁלַּמְתִּ֤י לָכֶם֙ אֶת־הַשָּׁנִ֔ים אֲשֶׁר֙ אָכַ֣ל הָֽאַרְבֶּ֔ה הַיֶּ֖לֶק וְהֶחָסִ֣יל
וְהַגָּזָ֑ם חֵילִי֙ הַגָּדֹ֔ול אֲשֶׁ֥ר שִׁלַּ֖חְתִּי בָּכֶ

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Believer

Do you think I should make the 8 cow wife a seperate thread for referal?

Queenie... hug pray


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YIKES! Did that come out right?

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Hi Queenie! Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and will be in the line to be praying for you!

just keep doing what you are doing!


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TJ - Lil - YES! Please open a new thread. That story is INSPIRING.

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What I think is that affairs almost always end, and then the WS turns back into their real selves.
That's your story and your sticking to it. eh.....

Well, you might be right on this one. G-d only knows.

His actions are still no different, so I can't think anything has changed.

I haven't read yet, but I will now......


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וְשִׁלַּמְתִּ֤י לָכֶם֙ אֶת־הַשָּׁנִ֔ים אֲשֶׁר֙ אָכַ֣ל הָֽאַרְבֶּ֔ה הַיֶּ֖לֶק וְהֶחָסִ֣יל
וְהַגָּזָ֑ם חֵילִי֙ הַגָּדֹ֔ול אֲשֶׁ֥ר שִׁלַּ֖חְתִּי בָּכֶ
LOL... I need it bigger so I can read the vowels....



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just keep doing what you are doing!
And what I am doing is staying out of G-ds way....

Thanks everyone....so much.


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Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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