So....I have been a member of this board for a good number of years now. I have observed a lot on this board....I love the people here and have made really wonderful friends on this board. But now I am gonna broach a touchy subject here for this board.

In a previous post I believe it was to Monc...I stated a long time now lingering problem with our board. I like to call it the "angry mob syndrome". Over the years I have noticed this problem getting worse.

We have lost some very valuable members and even prospective ones to this PROBLEM.

People are also afraid to post things because of the treatment they will recieve.

EVERYONE is entitled to there opinion. But it is the way it is presented that has posed the problem....and it seems after that everyone will climb on the dog pile.

Now yes sometimes members need 2x4's.....I am guilty of tough love after working with someone for awhile trying to help them. Frustration does kick in.

But at time I have notice out and out attacks and really rude comments. Does not the good book say treat others as you would be treated. Think of the discouragment your comment may be making before you go through the process of typing it out.

Then there are the posts to waywards coming here to seek help. A few of us were waywards...we came here for help and education. I have seen some nasty posts that have totally sent waywards backpacking to the op's arms here.

So before posting to a wayward, and I know there post may be a trigger for you, think about if your post will help them MARRIAGE BUILD.

If you find yourself not being able to post something nice AT ALL don't post at all.

Lastly the angry mob with shovels pitch forks and torches.....come on now....are we in high school....do we need to gang up on other individuals.....and I don't mean the trying to talk sense into a person activities....I mean the we didn't like what he/she said and were all ticked and gonna get him/her mentality.

Yes we have clicks here....we have groups of friends.....but not EVERYONE follows anothers lead. This is why god gave us our own individual opinions.

So people lets keep the debating respectful and healthy. Try not to be offensive and learn from each other....because a lot of people here are in the same boat.....when people in those situations band together they can be a powerful force.

And again!!

Thank you for your thoughts & suggestions,,,,HOWEVER, on the forums these threads ALWAYS turn into a chaotic war with namecalling & finger pointing.

PLEASE EMAIL your mods and/or me with any questions, concerns, & suggestions.