I've long heard talk of forums/boards for OM/OWs but never thought to seek one out. Another thread posted here listed ****edit**** and I looked around. They have TONS of good and honest forums...however, have one for "the other man/other woman."

So, being the inquisitive person I am, I looked around.



I'm thinking to myself, "self, maybe I can lend some perspective to these people..." so I registered and posted a thread. We shall see how this goes.

If you ever get bored and want to see an affair through the eyes of the OM/OW, have a peek. But bring your puke bag

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I looked at some of those a long time ago. It's like entering the world of Alice and the White Rabbit... where up is down.

The sewers of humanity....

I think the posters here can ad a lot to the marriage & infidelity boards there and at other sites as well. The WWs get a hard time there. It's more confrontational, less therapeutic. You will see marriage builders referenced there quite a bit. And there are a lot of posts by people who are considering affairs. Who knows maybe some of the insights from here will turn someone who is on the verge of ruining their marriage. If I was to compare the two sites, I would consider this a hospital for long term care, that site is more of an ER, with as much pain and angst as one.

I have seen a few "this was soo wrong" and "what was I thinking" threads, but for the most part, Melody hit nail on head...

All the OW sites i have read are just like Mel stated........

I check them from time to time, just to confirm that affairs almost always end.

After reading there, you feel the need to wash your eyes out with bleach.

Try ****edit****, it is disgusting. Talks about how the BS won't let go, we are greedy, holding their WS from true love, moving on.

What a support group. I think Satan runs it.

Yes i agree that it must be run by satan himself!!!

****edit**** has a wayward section, but it for support and for waywards that want to be back on the right path. Not sure if that is what you mean.

I've visited a few of those on occasion but my blood pressure can't take it. For the most part they are HORRIBLE.

I have only really read OW sites/thread and I cannot believe that OW PLAN their actions out and have the nerve to be angry at the BW for "not letting go". That is so bassackwards there really are no words for it.

All I can think is "Come on, karma bus!".

If those sites weren't so disgusting it could almost be entertaining...Why oh why won't my AP leave his/her spouse? Our lurve is soooooooo special. :crosseyedcrazy:

I posted on a thread of an OW who had ended the affair after the WH wouldn't commit to her. Talked about how IMHO most affairs end before 2 years, wouldn't want to start relationship with him anyway...based on lies and deceipt...

And this other person chimes in bashing me on head for my comments. I seriously had to hold back the 2x4.

I subtly and very tactfully replied to her post, letting her know that my opinions were based on my experiences, and that if she would like to wait around for her MM to dump his wife, well, that's her sorry life, er, business, not mine

Hon, pointing out the FACTS on those sites is like pi$$ing into the wind. The wind doesn't care, and you end up all wet.

I don't usually keep these threads going because they cause board wars and having been through one board war I never want to go through another, but....

I befriended a WW on another site (a pro marriage site, well known to most MBers). I was at the stage of private messaging her and thought I was getting somewhere. I had a feeling she may be posting on one of the OW/OM sites because she said that's where she'd come from originally so I checked it out. I was disillusioned, disapointed and sickened to see she'd just posted that "the MM has just left and I'm enjoying the afterglow".

FWW's are not welcome on that board, any more than BS's are. As Kimmy put it so succinctly, you may as well pi** into the wind.

I learned about MB from accessing ****edit****. I don't waste my time at their "other man/women" site.

I spend quite a time referring them to read the articles here. I'm very pleased that many do!

I enjoy reading the sites...it's better than a soap opera, honestly.

"Omg my MM left me? Why would he choose his wife and 3 kids over me?"

That's all the gist of it...

...or better yet "but he said he isn't in love with her and that he only loves ME, why hasn't he left her yet? Am I wasting my time waiting for him????".

Uhhhh....YEAH. If he's lying to his BW then he is lying to you too!

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I actually read TOW every now and then, because I am fascinated by human nature.

Yes, you all know I'm a nerd, and I cannot help myself. I analyze the posts. Who could help it?

I force myself to not post and let them know exactly when they are lying about the happenings of their "lovefests" being lies. It is so easy to tell when they are making stuff up.

And also easy to tell when he's about to kick her to the curb. Half the time, the MM is driving the bus himself.

I also watch their "Endings" posts, because I follow along to see how long the luuuuv lasts.

So far, the 2 year rule is NOT the norm among the posters. Much shorter, folks. More like 2 or 3 months. Most of the OW seem pretty young, and the men seem to be typical lying users.

Like I said, I can't help but study the trends. Maybe there is a research grant out there in Obama's plan, waiting for me to apply for it.

It would certainly stimulate my pocketbook! But I would have to buy lots of stomach medicine. Not sure the payoff is worth it.