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Dr. Harley advised I write this letter.

He also told me that I give up when I'm ready to give up and all I can be is persistant about telling her that our marriage can be enjoyable and that their is a way.


So to follow this advice, my final steps are this letter, talking to her brothers and going Plan B THIS week. By SUnday I will go Dark into Plan B.

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Originally Posted by SIHW
Ok just to clear something up....Monc...did or did not DR. Harley advise you to write this letter to OM's mother?

Are you currently in counseling with the harley's and when was your last session?

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This Last Friday was my recent session.

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As long as you are following the advice of Dr. Harley since you are under his direct counsel what you are doing is fine. Since he knows of the situation I would follow his opinion since he is the expert and the reason we are all here.

Just don't let it hurt your pyhsical and mental health. You do need to be able to fufill your own needs to make it through this and if you get sick or hurt it will only add to the situation. Good luck and you seem to be in good hands.

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Originally Posted by Bubbles4U
PLEASE LET THIS WOMAN GO OUT OF YOUR LIFE! SHE WANTS TO LEAVE YOU AND YOU CANNOT STOP HER OR MAKE THIS BETTER!

HE IS DOING WHAT DR. HARLEY TOLD HIM DIRECTLY TO DO!!!!

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Not that it matters one way or the other Monc, but out of curiosity, are you counseling with Steve Harley, or his dad, Dr. Harley?

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Steve Harley.


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OK! I UNDERSTAND NOW!

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A simple sentence is as understandable as your big [censored] letters. A well stated sentence does more "impact" than those.


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I am trying to be less serious. You are correct but I wanted to make people smile one time with big letters. They look so big, fat and powerful! Even if they are NOT ALL THAT!

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Originally Posted by Bubbles4U
I am trying to be less serious. You are correct but I wanted to make people smile one time with big letters. They look so big, fat and powerful! Even if they are NOT ALL THAT!

I like it Bubbles. A sense of humour is sometimes a nice thing to have.

Ok not my thread sorry. If Dr. Harley told you to keep pressing on with this Monc, who am I to say otherwise.

Hey, at least she didnt run you over with a car yet like BigBob's wife.

So you got that going for you...which is nice.

SWW

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Originally Posted by Bubbles4U
OK! I UNDERSTAND NOW!


WHAT? I THINK I WENT BLIND!

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Sorry, my coworker said I'm unusually cranky today...

So time for the Jack to come out ofthe Box cause this music needs to stop.

Thanks for trying to be funny, I really didn't see it unfortunately. A smiley face can do wonders!


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smile MONC, I WANT YOU TO FEEL AS POWERFUL AS THESE HUGE, FAT LARGE, DISTINCTIVE, AND TALL STANDING LETTERS!!!

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HERE IS HOW I FEEL ABOUT YOUR WIFE. IF I MET HER I WOULD FEEL THIS WAY ABOUT HER.

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