While you're waiting on your card reader, and snooping, and NOT telling your wife what you find or how you find it, you can take time to improve how you relate to her.

I know this will sound like I'm coming down on you, and that's not fair when she's the one acting inappropriately. The thing is, you are here and she is not, so I can only talk to you. So I will.

You need to get into a diet and exercise program NOW. You know your wife finds younger looking, fit men attractive. Can you join a health club and go together? That would be best. Try to find some activity you can both enjoy that will get you in shape. Maybe take up tennis or swimming or plan to complete a race or triathlon next year. Whatever you do, do it with her and make sure you get fit doing it.

You did the right thing in telling her you were uncomfortable with her plans. Please read up on POJA and learn that you should NEVER agree to something until you are both happy with it.

Read up on Love Busters (LBs), especially the Disrespectful Judgment. DJs will kill your marriage.

You have every right in the world to ask questions until you are satisfied. HOWEVER. For now, shelve the questions and focus on meeting her ENs. There will be plenty of time for questions later, after your snooping reveals whatever it's going to reveal.

Remember, you have a RIGHT to ask questions. The problem is that she won't answer and your questions, right now, will only anger her. So wait until the timing is right and use this time to meet her ENs.

Great job on the camera pic catch.

Keep snooping - you're getting great advice in that regard. And remember to keep your info AND methods to yourself until you've worked with the good folks here to devise a plan. It will be hard but just bite your tongue until you have a PLAN. You need to remain in control. These things always follow the same pattern - it's freaky how similar they are - and when you know what to expect you can be much more effective in how you deal with her.

I must agree , this looks bad. But, as you have been advised, I think you must really lay low while you investigate. As my MYrev says, this is a difficult one to investigate with the vacation/stranger thing going on and a conspiracy of silence among the other women.
I don't know about your financial resources, but a PI might help. If there was some way to find out the identity of the young guys via the pics or the passenger log from the trip, a PI might be able to do some digging from that end. Perhaps talking to some of the guys using some subterfuge, like striking up a casual conversation with one at a bar he frequents. Probably costly and it may be a fruitless fishing expedition. Presumably, since they left from the same airport, they are somewhat local. Have you thought of talking to a professional investigator?
I would imagine your wife intends to take this to her grave. Hopefully, the photos will shed some light.
Good luck. IMO, you are definitely on to something here.

I found my kids internet porn viewing this way.

1) Swipe the memory card from her camera immediately.

2) Search for a program, at the below address, called freeundelete, download the file and install it on your PC.
http://download.cnet.com/windows/
There are other undelete programs, but this one is free.

3) Get a USB card reader which accepts the memory card in your wifes camera. The memory card should appear like a lettered drive in windows. Drive E or whatever.

4) Run undelete and have it scan that "drive" you will likely see files named similar to Pho0001.jpg or Pho0002.jpeg undelete them to your C: drive, do not undelete them to the memeory card, as doing so might overwrite so of the other evidence on the memory card.

Once you have evidence should be easier to talk with other husbands, or email them or facebook them. BTW their husbands are likely in their friends list which is often public on facebook. GET THAT MEMORY CARD NOW, REPLACE IT WITH A NEW ONE IF NEED BE.

NJ

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