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We're doing great.
How about you?
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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Overall I am doing really well. H is struggling internally.... that darn 4th step... but I know it's not MY problem and I can't fix it, so I am praying alot.
Tell her hi for me, ok?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84 D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09 WH and OW broke up 1-09 Started over 7-09
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Hey there Queen Bee. YOu got MB back!!! Hope you are holding it together. Recovery is not for sissies...
Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009
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Hi Queenie!!!! (JT jumping with joy while waving) It's good to have MB back. Looking forward to our get-together next month. It's been too long. Love you!
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"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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Hi Queenie, my thread lost all my D stuff. Guess it means it was all a dream. Wasn't that what happened in Dallas? LOL
So glad to be back. I can now laugh, smile, cry, vent, etc.
Good that some of us were able to contact each other.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Hi, Beautiful. I hope to see you back over in "In Recovery" soon.
*Hugs*
Me (FWW): 45 BH: 46 M: 11/94 PA: 2/08 (4 mos) Confessed: 10/08 DS10 DD8
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Good morning! Not much time to post, but wanted to say Hi! Hope you have a great weekend,,,,,,,,,,,will catch up later! Luv ya!
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Oh Bummer!!! All of your story regarding how you and WH managed to get to recovery is gone. Maybe you can post a recap.
Glad to see you back!!
BS - me 56 XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Hi Chai, Bugs, Hope, JT
I missed you guys alot. Thanks for stopping by. I look forward to hearing the updates on all of you.
Chai, I know what's happening for you and I know that G-d has given you everthing you need. You probably aren't even aware of the strength and ability to hold your head up high knowing that you have walked through this with dignity and grace and whatever you have been called upon to do, you have done it.
JT, I just saw there are a couple of messages from you. I'll go listen when I get out of work today.
Bugs, I can't wait to hear about your update.
Looking, I'm going to try and say this gracefully. As grateful as I am in recovery. My heart is over here and I'm not sure I want to go back over there. For me the reason is because I believe that people who are coming over on here need hope that no matter what, if they follow G-d, follow the plans, etc, they can recover personally and maritally.
Most people who are still going through the horrids of an A, don't go to recovery because it's too hard. I was one of those people.
Am I being stupid? Maybe... I'll keep praying on it.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84 D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09 WH and OW broke up 1-09 Started over 7-09
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My heart is over here and I'm not sure I want to go back over there You know, I don't believe that Mimi ever posted on the recovery board, citing that she got more traffic here, on her thread. I dunno, I never felt like I was really in recovery, so I never moved my thread. You aren't afraid to go back over to recovery are you, Queenie?
Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009
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I MISS Mimi so much. I think you are right. And selfishly I made a LOT of friends over here. Am I afraid, actually I don't think so. I'm more lonely. I would agree with Mimi, you get more traffic.
As for recovery. SL, After this past 48 hours I would offer that recovery simply DOES NOT look like we imagined. I have to just TRUST G-d, walk in FAITH and remember it was HE who got me this far. I TRULY feel like we are in recovery. We are BOTH actively working on making ourselves better and different for ourself as well as the good of the marriage. It just doesn't move as fast as I want.
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BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84 D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09 WH and OW broke up 1-09 Started over 7-09
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Hi Queenie, stay with US!
Look at me I am still in this forum while rightfully I should be in Divorcing/Divorced.
I feel comfortable here with all of my "homies". Don't really know where I belong because I still do want to recover my M.
Reading this board every day gives me strength, hope and faith.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
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Hi Queenie, stay with US!
Look at me I am still in this forum while rightfully I should be in Divorcing/Divorced.
I feel comfortable here with all of my "homies". Don't really know where I belong because I still do want to recover my M.
Reading this board every day gives me strength, hope and faith. What a AWESOME thing to say. I think that's it too, I feel most comfortable here because we are families. We are through the worst here, and then get to celebrate the successes. I am glad I have the opportunity to be in recovery. I TRULY am. I just missed this place. How are you doing?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84 D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09 WH and OW broke up 1-09 Started over 7-09
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I got alot more traffic on my thread when it was in SaA. I decided to move it because there was a comment made on a thread about "the same half dozen threads always being at the top of the page" and I knew I was one of them by virtue of the fact that I am on and off MB all day. I moved so that newbies coing on could have a chance at getting some support without my ME, ME, ME posts As far as recovery goes, it starts off so heart breakingly slow... but like Flick said to me this morning, its rather like a jet plane, takes forever to get moving but once it does, it gains speed rapidly.
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
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I got alot more traffic on my thread when it was in SaA. I decided to move it because there was a comment made on a thread about "the same half dozen threads always being at the top of the page" and I knew I was one of them by virtue of the fact that I am on and off MB all day. I moved so that newbies coing on could have a chance at getting some support without my ME, ME, ME posts Hi Lil doggie, I do disagree about making room for the newbies. When I was a newbie I was busily posting but I cannot tell you all the time spent reading these threads and helping me daily. Just think if Queenie or Chai or anyone of the long time posters moved. That knowledge might be lost. But I do understand about the support to others. Signed ME ME ME
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
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I moved so that newbies coing on could have a chance at getting some support without my ME, ME, ME posts I admit I hadn't thought of that. Lil, you are always so good at helping me keep focused on the possibilities. I agree it's slow, but I also get to experience the stages first through you, so that's a COOL THING.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84 D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09 WH and OW broke up 1-09 Started over 7-09
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Well, I am selfish little weasel then, cuz I like SAA (GQII). As for me, I should be on the divorced forum, too. I read here and there, but mes amies find me here. I also like to read the sound advice given by the vets on this forum. I cannot use it to save my marriage, since that ship has sunk, but I CAN read and make some of it a part of my new life.
Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009
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BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84 D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09 WH and OW broke up 1-09 Started over 7-09
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Queenie you can always post here, on SAA, about your personal recovery, but it may be best for you to post about your marital recovery on the recovery forum. There may not be as much traffic, but the traffic there is specifically FOR those recovering, and you will get QUALITY hits there.
Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009
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