i am new to this. i think i have read all the rules and stuff so if i break any please let me know.
i am 30 years old. i have been married for 8 years, together 9. we have one child. my husband has had numerous A, probably more than i want to know. as far as i know, i guess they started even before we got married. he confessed them to me about 6 years ago. we never separated but we slept in separate ares of the house for a month or so. at that time i was the only one who went to therapy he wouldn't go.
i thought everything was well and good until about a year ago, when he confessed again that he actually never stopped the A. he says that they are just sex and that's all. he has always been upfront with the women he was sleeping with that he was never going to leave me. he said that every time he he slept with someone he felt ashamed and prayed to GOD to help him quit and then i guess for lack of a better word, someone would throw it up in his face again and he would sleep with someone again. for the most part, all of these have been with just random women met off of the internet. he has said that he never loved any of them and they were just sex. we both went to a christian marriage counselor this time. i saw my husband break down and cry like a child for the first time ever in my life. i honestly think he is remorseful for everthing.
my dilemma is, i know it has been a year since the last revealing but i just can't seem to get over it. i think about it all the time. i think that even though he seems to have cleaned up what if he is still doing it and i am just sitting here waiting for my next "reveal." i honestly feel like the life is sucked out of me. if i can't get my husband on the phone the first thing that goes through my mind is he is at it again. if he comes in from work and showers i want to accuse him of being somewhere. i dont trust him and don't know if or when i will ever again.
i love him and he says that he loves me. i don't want to be bitter and resentful but the A are all i think about. it has been just over a year and i just can't seem to move on. i guess i just want some advise. i don't know if i want to move on but i don't know if i can forgive again and again and again.
again, i am new and i know there are some lingo i haven't caught on to so if i have broken rules or offended someone i am sorry.