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Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
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alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
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These "sorry" people have smoked everything but their socks.
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An article on "How Entitled I Am" and reads like the storys on TOW. In fact seemed alot like one story I read there.  Nothing new or interesting, just the same old boring, horrible, selfish blah blah of infidels. 
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Big long story and one brief mention of the hurt she caused the BW. In fact, she's more concerned with OW#2. All of her lessons learned were about what she did wrong to get hurt herself. She is a TOW for sure.
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b_r has posted. 
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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b_r has posted. And very restrained she was 
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Carmen Sutra (ha flipping ha)? My H's ex-OW is named Carmen. I wonder how they found her!
This story is not about my H, though. Must be one of her other OM.
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b_r has posted. And very restrained she was LOL. The last sentence was a bit much and not as cut and dry but I was going for effect.  I'm sure I will get blasted. 
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I will go over to read your comment. I will add my own once I stop the flames from shooting out of my head.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
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I already added mine. Look for "Sugar", directly after BR.
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Reading stories from the OW is always the same. The MM is their soul mate, it was the best S they ever had, they are trying to save the MM from a bad M and his W. Cheating wh*res do anything to justify their skanky behavior. I can't believe how selfish they are.
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Reading stories from the OW is always the same. The MM is their soul mate, it was the best S they ever had, they are trying to save the MM from a bad M and his W. Cheating wh*res do anything to justify their skanky behavior. I can't believe how selfish they are. or how incredibly stupid that these OW are. When I read some of these comments they think they are in a romance novel. It is amazing how needy these OP are and believe this garbage that these wayward spews.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
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It is amazing how needy these OP are and believe this garbage that these wayward spews. I think it may be different for men than it is for women. My WW is smitten by a guy who has a bit of a reputation for being somewhat of a predator ("13th-Stepper," in A.A. language). I don't think he believes a word of what WW says. I think he's in it for a quick-and-easy piece of . . .
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Reading stories from the OW is always the same. The MM is their soul mate, it was the best S they ever had, they are trying to save the MM from a bad M and his W. Cheating wh*res do anything to justify their skanky behavior. I can't believe how selfish they are. ITA. There is not one thing special about this OW and her A with a MM. We've all heard this same story told here ad nauseum. She is no different from any other OW. They are all the same. And I bet she will wonder why she can never find "Mr. Right", and never take one ounce of blame for any of her failed relationships.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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Yup to what everyone's said. But then, we've all BTDT.
So distressing to see so many OW telling their sorry tales on that yahoo page.
I added my two cents to that thread as well. Doubt any of them will listen, though. They're in lurve...
Me BS 61
Him FWS 63
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Yup to what everyone's said. But then, we've all BTDT. I beg your pardon, rightthere? We've all been where? Not in OW shoes, I can assure you. Edited next day while hanging my head in shame. Please see my apology to righthere further down this thread.
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Yup to what everyone's said. But then, we've all BTDT.
Nope I've never BTDT. I would never do that to another woman and better yet my body and my love for myself is too great to be ANYONE's dirty little secret. I would never hide out just to have crumbs from some other woman's man. Never had, never will I can guarantee that.
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Yup to what everyone's said. But then, we've all BTDT.
Nope I've never BTDT. I would never do that to another woman and better yet my body and my love for myself is too great to be ANYONE's dirty little secret. I would never hide out just to have crumbs from some other woman's man. Never had, never will I can guarantee that. I don't want to throw cold water on the party, but Dr. Harley says we are all "wired" for affairs. If our EN aren't being met, we could find ourselves in an A before we're even aware of it. My WW was very big on "healthy boundaries," "doing the right thing," being "fiercely loyal" and all that. Right up until the day she told me she wanted to leave and was having an A.
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I do believe we are all wired for affairs.....but LTAs are a whole different animal....and if I was STUPID enough to cheat with a married man, I would not be STUPID enough to continue it and break up a family, No way, No how ....I beleive there is a difference...
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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Look at the sympathy to this woman in the comments.