I am sad. I hate being sad. Logically, I think, why am I sad? Why miss .him after what he has and is doing? But every once in a while I find myself missing him somuch. Someone forwarded a joke, I had to stop myself from forwarding to him because I knew he would think it was funny. Driving past "our" house, which he seems to have abandoned. Looking at my kids even hurts sometimes. Tonite on the way home from work "Total Eclipse of the Heart" came on and I brokedown. Thats not our song, but it made me cry

{{{IM}}}Time will heal. It may not seem like it, but you have a lot of living yet to do. Who knows what life will bring? I suspect, a lot of happiness. It may not seem like it now, but you will find happiness.

I am sorry you are going through this. How long were you in Plan A? Are you in Plan B yet? I have heard the BS has to go through their own withdrawal from the WS, so hopefully, if you have cut off all communications, you will start to feel somewhat better soon.

Hang in there.

I did plan A for way way to long. Doing so hurt so bad. He ended up leaving anyway and moved away from us for 10 months. I should have then did Plan B but could bring myself to do it. Now I have a plan B letter written, but I dont know where he is, sooo its just no contact. The kids havent even heard from him.

The last week I have taken a look at my life. I wanted to evaluate some things. The first thing I looked at were my relationshipes with others. I had some relationships that were not positive for me. Best friend in particular. It was a constant take relationship. She was a WW but I had thought she had overcome this, and did not want to be that way anymore. I thought I had helped her with that. We had gotten closer since we were both going through marriage tormoil. I did notice that we didnt talk much unless I contacted her. I thought it was because of everything going on. Since we had known each other since we were 14, I thought she was always going to be there for me.
Something happened a few weeks ago, that I was just made aware of. She is again a WW and the person she picked was devastating to me (not my wh though) I confronted her yesterday and have decided I can not have this in my life. I am going to plan B my former best friend and her affair partner who is related to me. They both have drained me emotionally at a time that I did not need it.

My question is, did anyone else find that after going through an affair, realize the wayward wasnt the only relationship that needed help?

So I havent spoken to my husband since I found out he moved in with someone. There was an incident last Saturday because I asked for some paperwork for bankruptcy, and that didnt end well. During that conversation he said he would not be introducing the new OW right away. Well apparently that was just for me.
Today he text me and asked to see kids tomorrow, I said ok, he was going to pick them up. Usually I had dropped them off at our former home together, however, this is now empty so I knew that wasnt going to last forever. On the way home, I told the kids he was going to pick them up. My oldest went white. He said he didnt want to go, but didnt want to discuss in front of sister. I pulled him aside later and said he didnt want to meet OW. I told him that I didnt think that was going to happen cause WH said he wouldnt yet, but that it will probably come soon enough. I told him I would call his dad to discuss.

I called WH, which I hate doing cause it still hurts so bad. I told him about the kids wanting to know what was going on. I told him about not wanting to me OW yet, he danced around. He wouldnt say he wasnt going to tomorrow. He kept saying eventually and I asked tomorrow? He wouldnt give straight answer. I told him I would call him in morning.

I spoke to kids again and daughter she just doesnt understand anything. She wants to go to her Dads house which is our old house, she cant separate the two. My son does understand and now really doesnt want to go. I dont know how I should handle. I know he cant take them to the old house forever, but why does he must be able to take them elsewhere. Do I offer my house? I hate this and this is why I did everything to avoid divorce.

My meeting with lawyer about bankruptcy turned into meeting about divorce. He recommended letting visitation, and said not much you can do about meeting gf but try to discuss civil.

I hate all this, and he is so awful to deal with.

He ended up not coming to get the kids since they didnt want to go back to meet the OW. He didnt call or anything, just didnt show up. He said he would arrange something for another time.

I know he thinks this is just me not wanting to move on but it truly isnt that. If he would have met this girl and dated her for a bit then wanted the kids to meet her, I probably wouldnt have had an issue. My issue is that he doesnt even know her, and he wants the kids to stay there?
Anyway, I have no clue where he is living and in fact, he will be borrowing her car to pick up the kids. I may be paranoid, but it makes me sick to think about not knowing anything about the outing.

I thought of getting gps activated in my sons cell phone. Can someone help me with that? Do all phones have it? Is it is a special service?

I would think calling your cell phone service to find out how to get gps on phone may be the right avenue. I believe it is an added fee - again it may depend on what bundle service you phone service offers.

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