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I am in plan B and am a bit concerned that some of the exposure I did way back is being slowly revealed to WH now. That over time, more and more will come across him and say I heard this from BS.
Apparently, folks I exposed to didn't interact with WH back then and may do so in the future.
It is weird. I know exposure can be a love buster and I am bugged that little exposure bombs are being released into the atmosphere while I am dark.
I am dark but thinking about things like this.
Also, why do so many folks think exposing is an essentric, inappropriate thing to do. Is it because the listener is made to feel uncomfortable? I don't get it. For instance something like this "Your BS said this. Its weird. She really has a screw loose, you poor man you. Doesn't she get that this is a private matter and normal people don't act like she is acting?"......just an example
Ruminating here.
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Don't worry about it. He SHOULD be aware that people know that he is an adulterer, and it matters NOT when they heard it. Don't worry about what people are saying to him. They could just as easily be saying, "Man, you have a beautiful wife who loves you to death! I don't know how you could screw around on her!" Or, even better...they take one look at OW and blurt out, "OMG! You left your sweet wife for THAT???" Find somethng else to think about...preferably something fun! 
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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Exposure is a tool to end the affair. In that I believe that it doesn't matter when WH finds out about the extent of exposure. I agree with LC, you don't know what they are saying to him. They could be putting pressure on him. They could just decide they don't want to deal with him anymore. Whatever the result, it is a good thing you are DARK because then you don't have to hear his temper tantrum about how you told so and so.
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I wouldn't sweat this at all. The benefits far outweigh any downside. What you describe is the rule, rather than the exception. It makes absolutely no difference in the outcome. Steve Harley has told clients in the past to expose after going into Plan B so the BS won't have to hear the explosion. The reason some folks think exposing is an eccentric thing to do is because the prevailing cultural "wisdom" about adultery has been dictated by a wayward mind and folks have accepted that "wisdom" unquestionably. Look at the loony beliefs we accept at face value, such as the notion that it will "hurt" the BS to tell them the truth?  It doesn't get any more retarded than that. Where do you think that idea came from? That is straight out of the wayward book of propaganda.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It is weird. I know exposure can be a love buster and I am bugged that little exposure bombs are being released into the atmosphere while I am dark. I would view these late revelations more as a gift that keeps on giving. It is a good thing for your nuclear bomb to have some little delayed bombs that keep detonating! Better to kill the enemy! The gift that just keeps giving!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. keep in mind that exposure is only a lovebuster to a wayward mind and you don't want him back if he is a wayward anyway. A recovered[ing] WS does not resent exposure.
It is like taking the car keys from a falling down drunk. It might make him mad when he is drunk, but he will appreciate it when he is sober. And taking the keys away from him and cutting off his booze were instrumental in sobering him up.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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