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I will do whatever it takes to protect her no matter what.
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And if my son found out his W cheated I would advise him to leave and find a W that will not do that, especially one that doesn't come out with asap!!!
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Thanks PEP for coming in with words of reason and wisdom 
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What is bullying?
Define it?
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I'm not trying to fix anyones's marriage I'm just saying coerced sex is wrong no matter who does the coercing. Which, in your case, includes sex with another woman's husband. At least it was consentual. Did your husband "consent?" Did the married man's wife "consent?"
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I wonder will you advice your daughters to stay with someone who bullies her into sex?, Depends Are they married? How often is HE wanting it, 5 times a day? Or a resonable amount like once or twice a week? Did SHE have an affair? Lots of variables there, feel free to fill them out. It doesn't matter what the answer is to any of those questions if my daughter comes to me and tells me someone is bullying her into sex I will tell her to GET OUT now, I will do whatever it takes to protect her no matter what. Protecting your daughter should have included not sleeping with your BF's H.
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What is bullying?
Define it? Hello???
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We've been saying that for a while now...
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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This is MARRIAGE BUILDERS
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And adultery  is not considered consensual sex  , but a grievous wound delivered to the very person you vowed to love and protect.
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What is bullying?
Define it? Tu use preassure, threats, maipulation to make some one do something against their will. And seriously does every single one of your arguments against everything I say has to be about how I had sex with someone else, that says a lot.
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And if you must know my husband is not here yet, so no i have not told him yet. I read your other thread and lets not pretend that you have any intention to tell your husband. Just keep repeating "its for his benefit that I lie to him and keep him like a pet." We all know you don't care about hurting him and your intention is only to protect yourself. But when he finds out, and he will, he will absolutely hate you for keeping this from him. For letting him spend time in the other man's presence, living out the life of a cuckold as his wife and good friend share a secret joke about him. Isn't it time you moved to the "Other Woman" forum and left the marriage advice to people who care what the term means?
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Tu use preassure, threats, maipulation to make some one do something against their will.
And seriously does every single one of your arguments against everything I say has to be about how I had sex with someone else, that says a lot.
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And if you must know my husband is not here yet, so no i have not told him yet. I read your other thread and lets not pretend that you have any intention to tell your husband. Just keep repeating "its for his benefit that I lie to him and keep him like a pet." We all know you don't care about hurting him and your intention is only to protect yourself. But when he finds out, and he will, he will absolutely hate you for keeping this from him. For letting him spend time in the other man's presence, living out the life of a cuckold as his wife and good friend share a secret joke about him. Isn't it time you moved to the "Other Woman" forum and left the marriage advice to people who care what the term means? This is not about me HTH.
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I had sex with someone else, that says a lot.
And continue to lie about it to your victims.
Indeed, it does say a lot.
About you.
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And seriously does every single one of your arguments against everything I say has to be about how I had sex with someone else, that says a lot. When one reads your "advice" they need to consider the source. Someone who has a wreck of a marriage brought on by a deficit of morality and decency can't very well help anyone attain a good marriage. Fix yourself first before you try to "fix" others. And keep your panties on. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Tu use preassure, threats, maipulation to make some one do something against their will. Where did the original poster say that? And seriously does every single one of your arguments against everything I say has to be about how I had sex with someone else, that says a lot. Untill you woman up and tell BOTH your Husband and your freind, then yes.
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Tu use preassure, threats, maipulation to make some one do something against their will. Is that at all like manipulating a husband to stay in a marriage against his will by concealing your cheating because he said cheating was a deal breaker for him? When you get up in the morning, do you fill the tub with hypocrisy and just splash around in it for awhile?
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I have a great idea:
Why don't the MB'ers on this board all go out and become pig singing teachers?
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who said I wasn't going to tell him I'm not telling him over the phone...
And btw I'm not having an affair, it happened once and I regret that it happened.
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