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In Plan B.
WH spends time with younger kids but teen dd (who has gone from anger to resignation) misses her dad and wants to spend more time with him.
Should I have my IM ask WH to spend more time with her or encourage dd to tell her father herself?
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I would leave it up to dd to talk to her dad. She may be disappointed though because most cheaters completely neglect their kids.
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She needs to tell him. She can TM him with...."dad, I'd like to see you on thurs. evening, does that work for you?"..... He needs to step up as a parent and you should not get into the middle of it....(even though as a mother that is hard.....  ) not2fun
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I agree w/ the others..encourage her to speak up for herself.
Learning to ask for what she wants is a very good thing.
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In addition to maintaining your Plan B, a teenager needs to learn how to facilitate things on their own (i.e. make phone calls or appointments). This is a valuable opportunity for her.
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Plus, the request coming straight from your daughter may pierce his heart and open his eyes, much more than a request from the BW through the IM.  kirk
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