there is no other guy for her on the side that person is totally out of the picture
Whoa, now I'm totally lost! On some pages you say you are absolutely sure your W is not having an A but then on other pages you say things like
"but that other dude better back off he has no idea what i am capable of". What other dude are you referring to and what, exactly, do you mean by "he better back off?" Better back off of "WHAT???" Whatever it is, it apparently makes you angry (ie: he has no idea what I am capable of). Can you give us more info about this, please?
she has this old grade school friend in FL that has come out of the blue and has been circling like shark he has feeling for her
Is this the "dude" you spoke of earlier? How do you KNOW he has feelings for her and what do you mean by "circling like a shark?" Yes, I know what it means but I want to hear what YOU think it means.
Also, in one post you write;
not holding info i mentioned this friend before and i am sure she is not having an affair
And, in your
VERY NEXT POST you write;
unless i was with her every minute of everyday there is no way to know 100%
Huh???
Those two comments totally contradict one another. How can you BE SO SURE and SO UNSURE at the same time?
there isnt an affair no emails no phone records no texting nothing.
No emails, no phone records, no texting, etc doesn't prove squat. Remember what YOU, yourself, wrote above;
"unless i was with her every minute of everyday there is no way to know 100%?"Unless your W spends every minute of everyday with you then you "KNOW" there is no way of knowing 100% for sure that she is not having an A, right? Of course it's right, you even said it YOURSELF! It might be time for you to start snooping FURTHER then just through emails, phone records and texting, don't you think?
there is no other guy for her on the side that person is totally out of the picture and yeas i am sure i installed a spy program on her pc.
Uhm, what person is "totally out of the picture?" Is this the "dude" you mentioned before or are you referring to some other guy altogether (perhaps the one from grade school that's been circling her like a shark?). Or is this all just one guy giving your W so much "sharkly" attention?
Personally, I believe you know more than you are letting on and that, right there, can make it all that much more difficult for us to help you. Granted, we'll do our best to try and help you all the same but, take note, if you don't open up and give us more than just half-assed answers all we can do is give you half-assed advice in return.
Is that what you really want?
all this mess was created because i was the 1 having internet affairs not her
It takes two to Tango, Nal, and until you are ready to lay some blame on your W you are not going to get anywhere. Remember, two wrongs don't make a right!
Good luck to you. :-)