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This is excellent and thank you, KiwiJ, for posting it. Excellent insights into the mental processes involved for the over-and-revealed-affair-situation.

I'd like to know what goes through the head of the WS whose affair is still ongoing, is undiscovered, and--even when it is found out--continues and is un-repudiated. If anyone can speak with authority to that topic, there are numerous BSs here, several of whom I know personally outside of MB, who would love to understand what is flying through the heads of these WSs...


xWW:
Secret LTA w/ thrice married OM at her workplace; EA/PA starts ~ 2005-6
Files & completes D - 2007, OM/OMW#3 D - 2007, Affairage - immediately thereafter
Disappears in 2006 w/o even a goodbye to anyone, Never a paragraph of real truth ever spoken
Me/xBH:
M "for life", Suspicions (denied) & desperate Plan A latter-half '06
1st D-day 1/07, full truth D-day 7/08 (all via 3rd parties)
NC w/ xWW 8/08-date, better off w/o unrepentant vileness, betrayal, & rampant deceit in my life anymore
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I remember this one. Kiwi and Plank did it together and it was as good as good gets.

thanks for bumping it.

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Originally Posted By: lildoggie
bump for T2L


Hi Lil doggie

why the bump for T2L???? She has not been on for awhile?


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Did ya happen to notice the date stamp on the T2L bump? laugh

This bump was just because I thought there were alot of newbies, and it had been a year since it was last up,


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Awesome!!


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DH: Had a 2yr. affair with my brother's wife.
D Day 11-10-09
Working hard on recovery!
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Originally Posted By: lildoggie
Did ya happen to notice the date stamp on the T2L bump? laugh

This bump was just because I thought there were alot of newbies, and it had been a year since it was last up,

rotflmao I saw the March date but didn't look at year 09. It is a good thread

Thanks for bumping... dance2


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Wow- thanks for bringing this post back by bumping.

First time I have read this. Amazingly close to what happened. Except for the stopping the affair. We are getting divorced so she can pursue happiness with this new guy.

I pray for the day when the suffering caused by this betrayal no longer destroys familys.


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xWW- 45
Married 15years, together for 20
served D papers on 6/2/09
Divorce final 12/19/2010

Custody of our 3 kids
DD 12
DS 10
DD 7

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Well i know iam disliked this 2 years ago, but i would have to agree. It is bad enough to know that my h "pined" over the FOW but to read this is sickening...............

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I liked this post too but it also made me mad.

I almost died from the pain...

I remember it like it was yesterday but it was 4 years ago.

I see some people go through what I did and it does not seem like it bothers them as much. I never could understand that.

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still don't fully trust ww, don't know if I ever will. reading this just brought back pain and wet eyes... the bottomless hole in my stomach.

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