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It depends on how it effects you being around. Can you get some of his family to come and take it?
Remember this is not a confrontation, this is you protecting your very sanity by removing him from your life.
Packing it up sends a good message. But PB is about YOU, hon..
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Thank you! I feel this is a huge part of recovery, everytime I look at something it all comes rushing back to the forefront!
Twelve years of crap to pack! ugh the thought...lots of tears and emotions I am sure! The reason you should box it up and ask him to come get it is because Plan B is supposed to emulate divorce. This is supposed to give him a taste of what life will be when you are divorced. And if you are divorced, you are certainly not going to be his personal storage unit. And more importantly, you won't be triggered every time you look at his crap.
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The reason you should box it up and ask him to come get it is because Plan B is supposed to emulate divorce. Wayzilla thought she was coming to pick up a couch. Her plan was to pop by now and then and pick up something. It was not my plan. When I opened the garage door she was faced with her entire life boxed, stacked and waiting. You should have seen her face. It took me and another guy 15-20 minutes to fill her van. I asked her to come into the house to make a couple judgement calls on things that could go either way. Inside the house there was no evidence she ever existed there. She walked around dazed and said multiple times, "This is just too much."
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She walked around dazed and said multiple times, "This is just too much." Ya think???  Duma$$ wayturds!
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When my XWH dumped me for OW, I paid someone to pack it all up and put it in the garden shed. Then I left a message on his cell phone telling him he could come get it but let him know the locks had been changed on the house.
Wouldn't you know he never did come get it. I UPSed his important documents, business records, kids pictures/letters to him c/o his mom and the rest went to Goodwill a year later.
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Thank you so much for all the help! I can say that you individuals are the reason I am surviving and mending myself everyday!
I read all your stories, and all the encouragement that comes from MB is amazing!
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Cherrychip,
It is amazing, I love the people on this site! We all help each other get through it. Keep us posted on how it's going...
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CherryChip,
Haven't heard anything this week, how are you doing?
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