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#243476 01/28/04 07:59 PM
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Dzzz ---

I'm still invisible --- sometimes I'm invincible --- the rest of the time - I'm just intolerable.

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Hi! I am gonna email you back soon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

If you are invisible don't answer. hehe

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WhirrledPeas:
Thanks for the welcome <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I watched the forum for a few months before I jumped in to post. Because I, like you, see people as "real" and want to be careful about any advice I might give. I also wanted to be really sure I understood the Harley concepts before saying anything. So that may be why I just kinda "pulled up a chair".

The fascinating thing is, that the human dynamics are pretty much the same Dzzz. It's just the questions that are different. My usual hangout has questions like..."Is POSIX support improved under the new linux kernel?".

So unless you are really geeky (I plead guilty), MB threads are catchier. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Some threads make me blush, but they are all well thought out and respectful, and I find it all pretty insightful. [/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So to make you feel welcome, should I start a thread comparing Linux SMP support to the Solaris Kernel?

How about the different threading models in Java Virtual Machines?

j/k

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> So to make you feel welcome, should I start a thread comparing Linux SMP support to the Solaris Kernel?

How about the different threading models in Java Virtual Machines </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Show off!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I have a feeling this is computer stuff but the only word I truly reconize here is Linux....(operating system right??) Oh and Java ..


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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Diamonzzz:
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For instance, I couldn't even figure out what the heck the "bump" thing was. (OMG I even made a thread to "ask".. how goofy is THAT!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">::chuckle:: sometimes those things happen. Once online, I was repairing a complex computer system (fortune 500 company) from 1,000 miles away and in the forum we had I posted a bunch of techie questions. Then, they conference call me to answer the questions.

So, I'm logging in to their system, and they tell me at one point to "hit any key and continue". So I asked, "where's the any key?"....ohmygoodness, I was sooooooo embarassed.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> So I asked, "where's the any key?"....ohmygoodness, I was sooooooo embarassed. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Too funny!! I bet you didn't live that one down for awhile.

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TR: Sorry hon! I tried to answer everyone and missed your post.

I am hoping to meet an online girlfriend sometime soon as well.

I have another interesting story about online stuff. My father's family is all American but of course I am Canadian.

He and a cousin of his were raised together. They lost touch over the years and after a family reunion a few summers ago, he got her snail mail and e-mail address.

I decided to start to e-mail her. I had never met her face-to-face but we got to be quite close over the net as we both shared an interest in poetry and writing.

I dunno .... I feel like I really DO know this "Aunty" of mine .. even tho we have never officially met.

Did you meet hubby on the net?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by javaSansContour:
<strong> So to make you feel welcome, should I start a thread comparing Linux SMP support to the Solaris Kernel?

How about the different threading models in Java Virtual Machines?

j/k

Tony </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow! You folks do know how to make a person feel at home, between you and Dzzz, thanks.

Linux SMP support hasn't always been the most stellar. On the other hand, you can see it, tweak it, and they might like it, credit you, and adapt it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Now, I haven't done much with Solaris as I'd like I'll admit. I have heard it's good, especially with symetric multiprocessing. But to be honest, my heart is with the Linux OS.

(Boy does that sound nutters or what?)

Now about java...*chuckle*

<small>[ January 28, 2004, 08:50 PM: Message edited by: WhirrledPeas ]</small>

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WhirrledPeas:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by javaSansContour:
<strong> So to make you feel welcome, should I start a thread comparing Linux SMP support to the Solaris Kernel?

How about the different threading models in Java Virtual Machines?

j/k

Tony </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow! You folks do know how to make a person feel at home, between you and Dzzz, thanks.

Linux SMP support hasn't always been the most stellar. On the other hand, you can see it, tweak it, and they might like it, credit you, and adapt it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Now, I haven't done much with Solaris as I'd like I'll admit. I have heard it's good, especially with symetric multiprocessing. But to be honest, my heart is with the Linux OS.

(Boy does that sound nutters or what?)

Now about java...*chuckle* </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, both Java (Just Another Vague Acronym) and Solaris have put a lot of coin in my pocket. I spent most of the first 6 months of 1996 travelling all over the USA teaching Java and used my Frequent Flyer Miles for my honeymoon.

Oh well, I better get back to studying. I have to pass my cluster certification test in the next 48 hours.

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Just a little more of the same stuff from me... but I was just reviewing this thread and saw the stuff from KS41 and Star*fish, and their reflections were a pretty good "finish" on some of what I was getting at.

When I first got a chance to "play" on the internet, I messed around some in chat rooms and got into the IM thing, and though I've never really developed any kind of deep "bond" with any individual at MB, I did go off the deep end a bit myself... where I was eager to get into the house sometimes just so I could see what my "online pals" were up to. I am not necessarily saying that's bad or unhealthy, but I do question the practicality of it. Compounded with the purpose of the forum, I have decided to be the way I was describing earlier.

It probably makes me a little boring, but if I die or something, then everyone at MB will be OK - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
...and for msyelf, I don't have that urge to "race into the house" to get on line like I did before. It was in '97 when I first got a real machine that was capable of "internet", and it took me a couple of years to get my "perspective" straight.

Hmmmm... didn't mean to get so long about it - just wanted to reflect a bit on KS41 and Star's thoughts.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Diamonzzz:
<strong> You hear about stories like this and forget that they really do exist. Gosh I really am sorry. I don't want to dredge up any ugly memories but how in the world do you reconcile that? I mean all your dreams and hopes dash in one day....
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">On the plus side, I lost 30 pounds! You know, I remember being so physically ill and devastated, but it's long ago and I got over it. He was very sorry, I was crushed, but even feeling bad I realized it was a valuable lesson. I tend to think everyone thinks the same way I do - they don't!

<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
I noticed in your tagline that your current husband has had online affairs. I am so sorry hon that has to be so hard.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">His affairs were all about ego and admiration and addiction, and never really about love. Like many women, it seems like it would have been much worse if he had loved them.

<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
Sometimes I wonder if it is more a manifestation of an addiction, than the need to fulfil with an affair. You know what I mean?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh it's very much an addiction - and having suffered from it a bit myself in the early days, I recognize it and understand it in others. Fortunately for me, I have a short attention span and got bored with the whole chat thing after a while.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ilmf:
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When I first got a chance to "play" on the internet, I messed around some in chat rooms and got into the IM thing, and though I've never really developed any kind of deep "bond" with any individual at MB, I did go off the deep end a bit myself... where I was eager to get into the house sometimes just so I could see what my "online pals" were up to. I am not necessarily saying that's bad or unhealthy, but I do question the practicality of it. Compounded with the purpose of the forum, I have decided to be the way I was describing earlier.

<snip></strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have to admit, there are times when I am out chasing around doing things that need doing, that I wonder about my 'friends' here at MB. A few in particular - because we've become friends off line - or at least off the computer too. I don't mind chattering on the phone with people off of here. I've met a few people off MB in person.

CJ introduced me to a great restaurant that I really like visiting.

Other people from here have wedged themselves well into my life as friends - one very good friend, possibly unlikely in real life because we are so different - and yet, I consider her one of my best friends.

Dzzz sent me her picture on email, and she's really quite lovely, her personality is so obvious here on line, I can't imagine not liking her IRL.

I think about all the things that have happened since I started here with my first ID about five years ago now --- I think December of 1999 or something...

We are a direct result of the impact of our surroundings, the people we meet, the places we have been, and the thoughts that we entertain. If that be true (which I believe it is) then the point is that I have a little bit of influence from everyone I've met - EVEN here on this forum - which makes you all a part of me.

Profound as that may be, ILMF, even you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Not sure how practical that is, but I suppose most have actually had a good impact on me - on some level. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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