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Bomb away!!!! I delivered the evidence to the OMW. I knocked on her door today. There were other relatives in there.She acted as she knew. She asked for my name and then she said said "oh you are (my name)" ...the best Christmas gift I have eve given myself. I feel so confortable now...Merry Christmas every one....Iwill keep you posted You had this evidence for several weeks. Even though they were away in November when you first wrote about this, you still had weeks in which to do expose. Why did you wait until Christmas Eve (was it? Christmas Day by my British clock) to deliver the information? Why do you say that it was the best Christmas gift you have ever given yourself? It doesn't seem like a thoughtful way to have treated OMW, who has done you no harm. I don't think exposure should be treated like a game of revenge. You were giving OMW what could possibly have been the worst news of her life. I hope you thought carefully about the timing and decided on it for a good reason.
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As the OM's wife seemed to know you already I guess the OM has gaslighted you or made up stories to cover himself. Christmas eve, Sunday whatever, any day is a day for exposure only you know your circumstance and it is for you to choose the day. Assuming the OM's wife accepts the proof then she is in a better place, if not than she is back to the lie she has been fed.
For your wife make sure you follow the MB guidelines to rebuild your marriage, work hard at this, you cannot and must not be lovebusting her.
One word for the whole truth ."polygraph", it does wonders.
Last edited by Xau; 12/26/10 12:12 PM. Reason: typo
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Christmas eve, Sunday whatever, any day is a day for exposure only you know your circumstance and it is for you to choose the day. I'm, asking what those circumstances were. I'd appreciate your letting him answer this.
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... Christmas eve, Sunday whatever, any day is a day for exposure only you know your circumstance and it is for you to choose the day. Assuming the OM's wife accepts the proof then she is in a better place, if not than she is back to the lie she has been fed..... I wished somebody would knock on my door to deliver the news the POSOM was "screwing" my W. I wouldn't mind even if that was father's day. I know I should have done it long time ago. But I was busy on my job...anyway its done. I feel better
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... Christmas eve, Sunday whatever, any day is a day for exposure only you know your circumstance and it is for you to choose the day. Assuming the OM's wife accepts the proof then she is in a better place, if not than she is back to the lie she has been fed..... I wished somebody would knock on my door to deliver the news the POSOM was "screwing" my W. I wouldn't mind even if that was father's day. I know I should have done it long time ago. But I was busy on my job...anyway its done. I feel better Okay. I don't want to make a big deal of this. I was curious about the delay, but you've explained it.
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[quote=Iwontgiveup]...This indicates the affair never ended. It just went further underground. Does the OMW have a way to contact you so you can stay in touch and kill this affair? No calls from the OMW yet...I wonder what's going on....??? I've been checking my W's phone and apparently no messages from the omw to her cell...looks like she (the OMW) doesn't care. I will keep my eyes wide open for the next days. Planning to aggressively confront the Om if neccessary.I will give him a little surprise visit (I loaded a solid iron bar in my truck already;))
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