Okay, I'll admit it, I naively entered Plan B with the hope that WH would come to his senses and crawl back immediately... not gonna happen by the looks of it.
So I am now curious about BS who entered Plan B and WS DID come back for recovery. How long before the cracks appeared in WS and the affair and they came back?
For those WS that did come back, did WS end the affair, or did the affair die a natural death?
Ive gone past this point tbh. TOday I was actually thinking it would be nice if I could find a man who can dance!!! But I have definitely been here and not so long ago.
I wouldnt mind knowing myself. It might also encourage those scared of the distance involved in Plan B to go for it.
I have a feeling the figures are pretty good, at least as far as the affair failing. I dont think I have seen an example on here of anyone whose WS didnt 'crack' eventually, when they kept a dark plan.
But it depends on what you mean by crack. Take peachy for example. Her WH realised he wanted her back, but he wanted to stay wayward. The affair will end, the WS will want his best cake back, but the WS agreeing to full recovery is something else entirely.
I think that part is the wildcard.
It takes real character to stand up and say: 'I did something really bad' - without trying to pin the blame on someone else.
I have never done anything really shameful in my life, so I can only imagine how hard it is to own that shame and make recompenses for it humbly.
I think it is really admirable and I know I would get my lovebank back for my h if I saw it in action.
Its a dead cert that your h's A wont last. But his strength of character is still up for question.
You have to keep in mind that even if his A is going badly, he is still alien. He is only worried about selfish things at the moment.
You need to focus totally on planning a life for you.