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I want to point out we betrayed spouses, along with some waywards all 'almost died' when faced with infidelity.
AMEN Reading!! Speaking as a betrayed Spouse.....There were some mornings.....when I was unhappy that I had woke up in the morning.......I did NOT want to wake up!!!
BH(Me)= 55 WW(Her)=43 DD=24 (My step-daughter, been raising her since the age of 8, SHE'S MY DAUGHTER!!) Married=13 yrs Together=16.5 yrs THIS IS MY STORY WW moved out of the home = May 1,2011 D-Day=July 4, 2011 Dear Wife: I'm COMPLETELY CRAZY about you!.....as of Aug-2012 forget that last part....Good Luck to you and GOODBYE!! "Mourn the woman she was. Know the woman she is."
I want to point out we betrayed spouses, along with some waywards all 'almost died' when faced with infidelity.
And betrayed spouses did not volunteer for this, the wayward spouse DID. It was FORCED on the BS. Any suffering incurred by the WS is at her own hand.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Why don't we just not respond to almostdied any longer?
Almostdied is just a manipulative wayward that is trying to get her husband to bow down to her ranting and raving after his (apparently well-done) exposure.
If he cannot educate her, what the hell could we do? She's the type (hypocrite) that gives Christians a bad name and is just playing the God card (as MelodyLane put it) in her latest attempt to regain control over her marriage.
Likening her to my three year old having a tantrum, let's just not play in her sandbox anymore.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
Bump ... come talk to us here, almostdied/notsurewhatiwant. We can help you.
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I know I've said this before on other threads, but even if the original poster chooses not to learn one whit from the wisdom and truth that has been graciously shared with her, there are plenty of others who will.
Even years from now, you might be surprised to see this pop up every now and again with someone reading it. There have been many times I looked at who was online and what threads they were reading, only to see nearly forgotten threads from 5 or 10 years ago, still being read and bringing benefit to the readers.
Most of us probably have real lives that are too exciting and absorbing to let us continue to post to a vanished and unrepentant poster. Well I do, anyway. (Should she come back, even marginally ready to listen and implement an MB plan, that would be a whole different scenario.)
But what was already said is very worthwhile, and not even one little bit wasted.
Since you're reading this, you might as well get something enjoyable from it. Well, enjoyable if you like horrible puns.
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There was once a snail who was sick and tired of his reputation for being so slow. He decided to get some fast wheels to make up the difference. After shopping around a while, he decided that the Datson 240-Z was the car to get. So the snail goes to the nearest Datsun dealer and says he wants to buy the 240-Z, but he wants it repainted "240-S".
The dealer asks, "Why 'S'?"
The snail replies, "'S' stands for snail. I want everybody who sees me roaring past to know who's driving."
Well, the dealer doesn't want to lose the unique opportunity to sell a car to a snail, so he agrees to have the car repainted for a small fee.
The snail gets his new car and spent the rest of his days roaring happily down the highway at top speed. And whenever anyone would see him zooming by, they'd say "Wow! Look at that S-car go!"
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
There was once a snail who was sick and tired of his reputation for being so slow. He decided to get some fast wheels to make up the difference. After shopping around a while, he decided that the Datson 240-Z was the car to get. So the snail goes to the nearest Datsun dealer and says he wants to buy the 240-Z, but he wants it repainted "240-S".
The dealer asks, "Why 'S'?"
The snail replies, "'S' stands for snail. I want everybody who sees me roaring past to know who's driving."
Well, the dealer doesn't want to lose the unique opportunity to sell a car to a snail, so he agrees to have the car repainted for a small fee.
The snail gets his new car and spent the rest of his days roaring happily down the highway at top speed. And whenever anyone would see him zooming by, they'd say "Wow! Look at that S-car go!"
The snail gets his new car and spent the rest of his days roaring happily down the highway at top speed. And whenever anyone would see him zooming by, they'd say "Wow! Look at that S-car go!"
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Celtic Voyager Married 22+ years 3 young adult children
I had to post here just so I could watch and see if almostdied comes back.....
This has been very enlighting to me...all WS must have a loose screw between reason and reality. Maybe that screw was loosened by the "voice of what she thought was God"...... Hummmmmm...... Adam and Eve comes to mind.
Me (BH): 42 Her (WS): 39 Married 19 yrs DD: 16, DD: 11, DD: 7 D-Day: 7-5-2011, Caught searching 10-15-2012
it's obvious that AH's "consideration" of suicide was an attempt at sheer manipulation as per SusieQ. in my job, i care for people all the time who express suicidal ideation and do not sense that AH was considering harming herself. she was obviously livid at being exposed and was seeking to clothe herself in righteousness.
belated Happy Birthday CV! my birthday was on the 22nd as well. this year i decided to give my kids gifts instead. sure as heck the WW wasn't going to be celebrating it.
