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Help.... Really tempted to contact OW's brother.... Have heard he knew the A was going on. Just want to let him know I know.....
Also heard housekeeper knew and has lied to OWH about not knowing.... Feel she should be exposed and sacked. Thoughts..??? Will hold off until I hear back,,,, think I know what you will say.... NC!
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Yes NC it is , move on. Your to absorbed in looking over your shoulder at others, create a new life, new friends and work hard to get out of the dark place you are in. The only person that can help you is you. With a new circle of friends , keeping busy with activities that make you happy you will recover.
Revovery is a hard slog the end result is worth it as is your health and well being.
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Help.... Really tempted to contact OW's brother.... Have heard he knew the A was going on. Just want to let him know I know.....
Also heard housekeeper knew and has lied to OWH about not knowing.... Feel she should be exposed and sacked. Thoughts..??? Will hold off until I hear back,,,, think I know what you will say.... NC! SAY NOTHING. Why should you care if OW's brother knew and didn't say anything?? AEK, other people probably knew as well. It serves zero purpose to say anything. Have you moved yet?
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The only way you should consider more exposure is if you find that C has resumed. Otherwise, it's just one more way to stay stuck and keep your wheels spinning. To try and control what other people are thinking and doing, and to try and get them on your side. Haven't we talked about this before?
I may have said this once or twice before, but you WILL NOT get the space you need for healing in your current location.
What steps are you taking to remedy that?
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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AEK,
You can drag that anchor along with you for the rest of your life if you want to.
You could make the choice to cut the anchor chain.
How much does that anchor weigh?
SB
Lucky to be where I am, in a safe place to get marriage-related support.
Recovered.
Happy.
Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
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AEK, as you see, our advice is the same as before. GET OUTTA THERE.
And why are you even hearing anything else about OW? If someone brings her up, you tell them that you want to hear nothing more about her.
She isn't worth any more time in your head. Hasn't she done enough to you? Instead, you need to keep beating yourself up, with her as your weapon of choice. STOP IT.
MOVE AWAY.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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It's my fault I guess. I look at twitter and can see what they are doing....
I guess nobody will even know the extent of her hideous behaviour although I do hope they find out.
Generally things are better.... Thanks to you.
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Well looking at twitter is not going to help you either.
You need to remove OW from your life completely. No Contact for life includes you as well.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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My daughter sent an email to OW via my email account. It wasn't that nice. Should I send a brief one saying sorry that my daughter sent an email or should I leave it?
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Leave it and change your password so your daughter cannot do this again.
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Leave it and change your password so your daughter cannot do this again. YEP. How are the moving plans coming along?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Moving in July. I know it's a while but atleast it's sorted.
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Moving in July. I know it's a while but atleast it's sorted. I am sorry. This is going to be a very tough road for you, and it may not lead you to marital recovery. That is a LOOOOONNNNNGGGGG time to be in OW's world. You are going to be ever vigilant, but I honestly don't see how you are going to recover your marriage with OW so involved in your life. Why such a ling wait?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I know I wish it was sooner..... But that's how it is. My h has a job and it has a house with the job. We have to rent until then.... Will have to close my ears. Gave deleted twitter.
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My daughter sent an email to OW via my email account. It wasn't that nice. Should I send a brief one saying sorry that my daughter sent an email or should I leave it? How is your daughter able to use your email account?? No, say nothing. Don't allow your daughter to use any electronic communication that links back to you, in this situation or any other. That's just a smart rule to follow in any situation. NC applies to your daughter as well.
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How old is your DD, just out of curiosity? (Her age won't change the correctness of the advice to keep her out of your accounts.)  Deleting Twitter was smart. Do everything you can to get all thoughts and reminders of OW as far away from you as possible.
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Ow has now told everyone about D email... What shall I do? Need to protect her....
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Ow has now told everyone about D email... What shall I do? Need to protect her.... How does OW even know that it is from her if she sent it from your account? CV
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Ow has now told everyone about D email... What shall I do? Need to protect her.... What did the email say? I suspect you should not reply at all, but I'd like to hear exactly what was in the email before I press that.
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