I edited it, should work now.

If nothing else, it's in her signature.

Thanks MB, and others for clearing this plagurizim up, with the midlife crisis thing and all

Yeah I thought it is a wimpy excuse too

As commented earlier on why do we find so many 40 yr olds here, I think it is normal as a stage of maturity and development to wrestle with certain questions in life at those ages

They are here because the wrong answers were embraced, and childish fantasy and escapism has taken it toll

Thank God for this place to strengthen the hearts of those betrayed, and to to liberate the rebellious wayward from the fantasy

Thank you CP for getting us back on track.

Its been a long time since I had a good thread jack. At least we're not talking about Canadians and hockey and beer, wine, pate and salmon mousse and dogs playing cards like we used to.

It seems to me that whenever people talk about a "MLC" it is said with a heavy amount of derision and ridicule.... like, "Oh him and his damn MLC... or, you know how stupid people act when they think they're having a MLC."

My wife was 39 staring at her 40th birthday when she started her affair. That arbitrary birthday was just an excuse to make the wrong decisions, embrace childish fantasies and engage in escapism.

Calling her sitch a MLC, in mty book, does not let her off the hook. But I will explore whether or not she or I use the term "MLC" as ome kind of excuse. I do not intend to. Saying, "You had a MLC" to me is a very derisive thing to say -- appropriately so.

I read a funny bit somewhere in this forum about MLC. It had multiple chapters. It was a joke. Called, "How to Have a MLC" and went on to describe all the foolishness and foggy excuses waywards use. Its brilliant.

Anyone know where that is? Pepperband seems to locate archived stuff.

My experience with MLC... I had friends / family IRL suggesting to me just prior to and after D Day that WH was having an MLC. I now know enough about affairs to understand that MLC is irrelevant. Affairs are totally about boundaries or lack thereof. But people always search for an answer wrapped up in a bow to explain why others do wrong things. People need a label to put to it, cause than they feel it won't happen to them. For instance, I have been able to tell that some friends have been thinking or even said "oh, MY husband would never have an affair, he is too sensible for a MLC". Some of them have a re-think about affair-proofing the marriage though, cause all of them thought my WH would NEVER act like this.

Basically, MLC is a one size fits all explanation for those who haven't had the benefits of reading MB's.

Ok, please don't fight me. I'm sorry, especially sorry for Stretch, I'm not intention to disturb him, or made you angery, just try to see if there is any other reason. I don't have much experince, just guess.

This is the first web I found since I'm in trouble, you guys give me a lot help. I bought & read a lot of Dr Harley's book, it's wonderful, I'm here almost everyday read post. once again, sorry, Mr. Stretch. I out now.

No no no!

No one's upset with you, heart!

We just believe there are better ways at recovering marriages than the ones that you mentioned.

By all means, post any questions you have on your thread. We all want you to get your marriage back on track.

We were just trying not to sidetrack stretch's thread...but it happens sometimes

Heart2, lol, if you knew me I am one of the sidetracking greats in all-time history

I turn threads into smorgasbords of all kinds of information

The MLC issue or excuse or whatever you want to call it, came into the discussion area of "reasons", why people go into regressive behavior, sometime in the 70s, during the babyboomers hitting the discos and the ,"me" generation as the reason to express getting there share of self indulgence.

It has been a popular reason for the breakdown of people for years, when it was pointed out by MB, that it was about the stages of acceptance of our humanity and our eventual loss of life

Something I might add, has been told us to be ready for by God, most of our adult life

Back on a second on my PC, I gotta find a scripture

Hebrews 2:14-16
King James Version (KJV)


14 Forasmuch then as the children are partakers of flesh and blood, he also himself likewise took part of the same; that through death he might destroy him that had the power of death, that is, the devil;

15 And deliver them who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.

16 For verily he took not on him the nature of angels; but he took on him the seed of Abraham.

___________________

For that reason I allways tried to consider myself in the midst of death, and ready to go home, if I needed to, and allways a child of God in crisis.

Yup, I have been a do-gooder, have a hero/KISA complex, and can come off pretty cocky and opininated also.

But what we share here is an important part of opening our minds and imaginations to thinking about old things in new ways, with the stability of reality and truth.

Dont worry, we don't judge, but I hope we trust one who does, and can be trusted to give us the truth.


See now didn't I do it again?

Northwood you want to talk about maple syrup? This will have you wondering if I put a keylogger on your machine that I just show up like that huh?

mmmmmmm maple syrup. Have you tried the new white hot chocolate from Timmie's yet? Mmmmmmmm

Carry on. t/j over.

Ah Maple syrup,.. now lets see...JK I don't have anything... Lol

Reynolds, you're a bad boy.

That you showed up now is a bit odd...

All's well I trust?

But, sure, what the hey. Stretch won't mind if we add a few dozen pages to his thread...

We'll give you a minute.

Surely, you can think of something

Pffftttt...Canadians. What can you do.

Ok well, I remember my blind accordian teacher in western mass being able to feel the flow of the Maple syrup sap in the hoses hooked to the trees...

Thats it sorry all I got

CP-

Well, back B.C. (before children) we bought a jar of the "real" syrup, not that Aunt Jemima stuff. You know, the $5/bottle stuff that's straight from the tree.

So I use it for my waffles and put it in the fridge. The next day I see that there's syrup spilled down the side of the bottle and decide to wash it off. Remember, we didn't have kids so I had lots of free time like that.

I turn the hot water on in the sink, put the cold bottle of syrup under it and, well, the glass cracked and my $5 syrup went down the drain.

Now, surely, if the Canadians had made their syrup better I wouldn't have had that problem. Right?

And that's my story. Aren't you glad you stayed around to read it? I've got loads of pointless stories like that.

Why were hosers hooked to the tree, eh?

You bought maple syrup for $5? No way it was real Canadian Maple syrup. That stuff is expensive.

And what I LOVE is when Americans buy up a bunch of Coffeecrisp and Aero chocolate bars, as well as Smarties(which my DS8 used to call, "Farties" since he had a problem saying his "s"). Meanwhile, I go over the ditch(To the States) to get things like cherry coke, cherry pop tarts and cherry panda paw ice cream. I think I have a cherry problem.

Hey Stretch, you don't mind the T/j do ya? I used to LOVE t/j's on my thread, it reminded me that there was a life out there other than affairs(although those are serious business, and I respect that, distraction is just good sometimes.).

Lol

Yeah, it was a glass bottle about the size of a flask. They're usually on the top shelves while all the cheap stuff is down low.

The glass broke through absolutely no fault of my own. Therefore, it must have been Canadian syrup. No way we Americans would produce something like that We're perfect, doncha know?

Well, it might have been from Vermont or somewhere up there but, well, let's just say it was Canadian because it fits my pre-determined conclusion better.

I didn't know Smarties were Canadian. Our kids got a ton of them (ahh, hyperbole!) at Halloween. You're talking about those chalky round Sweet-tart things that come in a clear plastic roll, right?

I'll have to look up Coffeecrisp and Aero bars. And hosers. I've forgotten just what a hoser is.