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Have been married to my wife 29 years. Raised 3 children and they're out the door. So, things should be great....right? Well ..we both work quite a bit and have some demanding jobs. After a discussion last night we were discussing about things we could do together. Was an ok conversation...part of it was doing things around the house, which I do.
We were in a dept. store last weekend and I joked at the lingerie..I said if she surprised me with something sexy, she'd be surprised how many things at the house would get done. She's pretty fit so I didn't think she'd take offense.
Didn't hear about it till last night...she said she thoght if she did that it would be in some way prostituting!! Thoughts?
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I can see how she got that impression. She might have thought you were suggesting a quid pro quo. If I were you, I would do those things around the house and see if it makes her so happy that she goes out and buys some sexy lingerie and surprises you at the door! I know when my H does nice things for me, I am filled with LOVE for him and ENJOY making him happy.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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mike, most women feel that they need an emotional connection to their husbands in order to enjoy making love to them. It's common for women who don't feel that connection to feel bad about sex. So if that's the circumstances here, then that would explain your wife's comment.
This program can help you generate that emotional connection. have you read the Basic Concepts on this site?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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