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Hello all,
I recently found out from one of my closest friends that my husband has been having lengthy conversations online with her, and quite a few other women. Apparently he has been asking them if they have ever wondered if he is gay or bisexual. I also recently found out he has asked one of my sisters. Should I be worried? It seems like he has done this alot with mutual female friends..
From what he tells me, he gets alot of gay teasing, especially at work. From his family members, and i have teased him before, but for good reason. I discovered he had been looking at the casual encounters ads on craigslist, searching for "bisexual couples". I also found out he has talked to A LOT of females, asking them what they think. The most recent one was my sister, who told him that girls he has talked to came to her, wondering about him..thoughts?
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I would ask him to stop having personal conversations with females and stop looking on craigslist. That is inapropriate. And he can't be "bi-sexual" obviously because he is married.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Is it possible that all this teasing has him questioning his sexuality? He may have heard it often enough to start to wonder. I would check to see if he is viewing this kind of porn. I would consider a few things before assuming he is actually bi-sexual. I would also talk to or email the Harley's. Dr Harley had a gentleman call one day because his wife was having an affair with another woman. I am certain he could offer some insight.
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Dr Harley treats same sex relationships the same as he would opposite sex relationships. So looking for bi sexual hook ups on craigslist would be treated the same as if he were looking for opposite sex friendships. In other words, just ignore the gender and look at the behavior. Infidelity or seeking infidelity is all the same regardless of gender.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Teasing about a person's gender expression or orientation, actual or perceived, is cruel and abusive. The principle of protection needs to be applied here.
Stop teasing him.
Don't tolerate the teasing by others any more than you would a racial slur.
Me 58: FWH (NC 32 yr), W 60, married 36 yr, DD 32
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