I can't tell you how many nail polishes I have purchased lately. Whenever they are on sale, I just keep buying. I think I have a problem.

My FAVE colour right now is Rockstar Pink(although I don't enjoy pink). It's all GLITTERY.

Ah but our Pep doesn't need a plan to be flawless! She's practiced it so long she knows flawless by heart!

I'm feeling so left out. I'm going to dig out my aquamarine polish and do my hands...

I am going with white tonight ... hoping they look good in some open toed shoes ...

We might have to start a new thread NPCA (nail polish collectors anonymous).

I am so sadden by your story. As a Christian Wife, you are to be submissive. However, your also called to be respectful--always. Ephesians 5:33. If you do not expose the great hypocrisy, I feel you are being very disrespectful to him by not helping him find the path out of his sin.

From a brother in Christ.

Skid, you'll be glad to hear that she did exposure, and it helped a lot. Though some people still weren't sure what to believe, others supported her when she least expected it.

Awesom!

Sounds like you're doing great! Just remember, we're here to support you in the good times and the bad. So if you start feeling down, don't be afraid to come here and ask for help. If you stick with Plan B, those down times will come less and less.

Hmmm, I just mention a beauty appointment... sounds much more glam than getting "bits and bobs" waxed

And WHiP, you Plan B activities are great! Exercise and doing things for YOU really do help.

Also, glad to hear you are have a toenail colour... it really is the little kindnesses we can do for ourselves that count.

Love it! Inspired me to paint my fingernails yesterday - hot magenta! I'll leave my toenails taupe for now. Stangely enough WH always liked it better when my toenail & fingernail polishes matched. So of course now, they never will. Mwah-ha-ha-ha-ha!!

Plan B still going strong so far. Staying dark. LOVE the app on my phone that keeps him from being able to leave VMs or send texts. He can send them, and I get a notice that a text has been blocked, but there isn't any content. Last night he didn't pick up HIS phone when DS called him before bed (a daily routine)and must have got frustrated trying to call back and being hung up on (phone app automatically does that to blocked #s) because he called my parents' land line!

I do have a hypothetical question for y'all. It really is hypothetical so far. Just want to figure out the best way to respond should something come up.
I made it very clear in the PBL what times WH could see and p/u the kids. However, what do I do if he just shows up unannounced and wants to have time with them, or comes to pick them earlier than what I've established in the PBL? Obviously the PBL is not a legally binding document. I don't want to "give in" when he tries to cross a boundary but I also don't have a legal right to keep his children from him whenever he would want them do I? He sent me a text a while ago (again, don't know the content, just that he sent one) and it made me think of such a scenario.
Say he shows up at 4 PM when the PBL states he can p/u at 5 PM or later. If I give in and allow him to have the children earlier, he'll keep breaking that boundary over and over. But if I refuse and make him wait outside until 5 I could find myself in legal trouble for withholding his children from him.
Just wondering if any of you had similar experiences or knew how best to deal with that, should it come up.

How is him waiting for 5pm 'withholding' his children?
It is simply the best time for him to start his time with them.

If he shows up early, and you are faced with him due to his pressing your plan B boundaries you have set up, you simply tell him he will need to come back at 5. Ask him to leave until then and do it with firmness but with manners. You will probably be busy doing things with the kids from 4 to 5. Giving them snacks, etc.

Try not to engage in discussions with him.

Hopefully he will not walk right in and expect early start to his visitation with the kids and to talk with you.

I just wouldn't answer the door if he pulled something like that.

As a now lone woman, you shouldn't be opening the door indiscriminately anyway. Most law enforcement officers would never make a woman open the door to her cheating estranged hubby if she didn't want to see him. That's harrassment.

If he has a go at your IM for it, I'm sure she will know what to say. If it was one of my Plan Bers I'd say 'she doesn't answer the door to unannounced company, you need to make any changes to the visiting schedule through me'

Of course I would advise you not to let him make any stupid changes either or offer flexibility. You all need a routine, you are perfectly within your rights not to let him waltz in and out.

If he goes to see a lawyer, the lawyer will say does she let you see the kids? When he replies yes, he doesn't have much of a point.

I have seen a situation where a BW got talked down to by some officers her husband knew. But she didn't let them scare her. There's no law says you have to open your home to an ex.

Your children need to know they can't let him in either.

Whip, how old are your children? I'm just wondering how you plan to have pick ups and drop offs at your house without seeing him? Are they old enough to go out alone? How will you prevent contact?




So you have style and an evil laugh. I think I love you.

I think you're going to be a legendary Plan Ber!

DS 5, DD 17 months. Too young to just leave on the front porch. LOL! The 3 of us are living with my parents for now (lived in a parsonage in AR so we all had to move out when Pastor resigned) and WH's p/u and d/o times are always times my parents are home. They take care of exchanges so I can leave or stay in the house and have no contact. So thankful for them!

NCPA meeting place has been started in other topics.

Thought it would be fun to discuss girly things.

What is the name of the app to block calls and texts? I have been paying a monthly fee to have the phone company block my ex and it would be great to have a cheaper way to block his craziness?

Thanks!

Isn't NC grand?!

The app is called Mr. Number and it is only available on android phones. (No iPhone.) It's wonderful! Gives the option to automatically hang up on caller instead of sending to VM. Love that! If you are able to use it you'll have to go into settings and unselect "save content" of text messages. Otherwise you'll still be able to read any msgs he tries to send. The app does keep a record of attempted calls & texts so I know the times WH has tried contacting me. One thing the app doesn't do (that I wish it would) is inform the caller that they're blocked. Like bouncing the text msg back to them or something. Oh well. At least I don't have to hear from him. Blocked his parents' & brother's numbers as well in case he'd try to call from them. I'll change my # if I have to, but so far so good.

HECK YES!!!!
The first day was the worst b/c I was on pins & needles thinking he'd try to get in touch w/ me however he could. But I'm relaxing a little more about it and learning to make myself better without being thrown off by his fogbabble all the time.

But any type of blocking is easy for the wayward to get around.

They'll just use a different number to reach you!

This isn't a pesky boyfriend who will get the message that he's blocked and therefore go away.

Were talking about a fully fledged, self important and entitled addict. Who doesn't feel he has to be a husband in any way, but he sure will expect you to continue to be the wife who takes his calls and he will go down any routes he has to for that 'right'.

Exactly!!!! Addicts will do whatever it takes to get a fix from you.

They will call blocked call from a friend's phone call from a new number. Name it, they will figure it out. Each time they attempt the BS hurts all over again.