Estrela - re the work email.

Check to see if they WILL block (because they can) specific email addresses coming in - flag them as spam?

The way to approach this is probably with your H/R department - that you've been getting harassment emails from someone who will never have a legitimate reason to contact you at work. Give them the email addresses to your WH and ask them to get I/T to block the addresses and flag them as SPAM.

I once had a customer who was leaving obscene, profane voice messages and calling about every 3 to 15 minutes. I forwarded one of those voice messages to the Sr. VP over my division and she was blocked 15 minutes later in all forms with every phone # we had on file for her and her email address.

You don't have to go into detail why - just tell them that the calls are intended to disrupt the workplace and you have requested that they not contact you. And you appreciate their help.

Don't let them tell you I/T can't do it. Any company has the ability to block an incoming phone call or email.

Ah! just found a beautiful thing. Estrela - you don't have to have I/T do a thing.

Just take every single email address he could possibly send you something from. Look at your outlook menu for "ACTIONS" - there's a drop down menu that has a "JUNK MAIL" selection - then selection "JUNK MAIL OPTIONS". that will pop up a menu that has four tabs - the fourth choice is "BLOCKED SENDERS" - take great pleasure in the control you will feel as you add all of those email possibilities to your list of SPAM.

Then on the first tab labeled "OPTIONS" check the box that says PERMANENTLY DELETE SUSPECTED JUNK MAIL INSTEAD OF MOVING IT TO THE JUNK FOLDER.

That should do it!

KA - Yes, you are right, I just changed the setting. Thanks for the research. It felt like someone who is trying to push the door when all you need to do is pull it.

Happy not to have to involve IT/HR in this mess.

Scotty - Take care, thanks to stop by to reassure you are well and for the advice. I cannot tell how much I appreciate you!!!

As for DS, the good thing is that he was oblivious to the request/response dinamics.

Indie - thanks. Another hole plugged!


Mel - thanks for keeping an eye on me. I guess this is right on the mark. Plan B till I see the NC letter... (but not waiting for it).

Thank you all for the support. WH is travelling on Friday for 2 weeks and I guess I am in some kind of weird expectation. I am hoping he leaves without trying to break Plan B.

Hi All. Just an update, not much going on.

I've been reading posts, always inspiring, I try to post sometimes, but feel still too emotional to be able to give any good advice.

Last week, WH sent another e-mail that went through (another e-mail address that is now blocked):

"Miss you and I love you. I want to be with you and my family. That is the most important in my life. I want us to be together forever. Kisses Your husband"

After a day feeling quite depressed, I decided to reply, and send the same message again (he keeps throwing the ball on my court, when it is clearly on his): do not communicate with me until NC letter to OW. Also told him I was blocking all his e-mail addresses so any communication would only reach me through IM.

This was a week ago. Haven't heard from him since.

So... keep working on PR. Running, yoga, spending quality time with kids, blue toenails (getting use to those), working hard.

Need more fun time I guess...

Amazing Plan B work!

I think you have earned yourself some Plan B treats.

Ditto! e

Thanks Indie and BH.
I will do something new as a treat this weekend... thinking to take the kids (and myself) to the beach if the weather is nice enough

hugs to you, my friend...

Thank you, Mel!

Great job, Estrela! Keep it up. Brave with the blue toenails.

estrela, i am so proud of you! in plan b, with blue toes and all! well done, girl, well done!

Hows that weather?

Estrela, keep on keeping on. One foot in front of the other, until you look back and see just how far you have come.

RS - You are so brave. So inspiring how you went out of your cocoon and became this fighter!

Letty - thanks. Following your thread and happy with all the excellent development.

Caracal - Thanks, and wishes for clarity and strenght on your next steps. and congrats on the driving stunt! And if you want to, I can teach you parallel parking. As long as the car fits in, I will put it there, no dents

Thanks All! Your support means so much during weird times...

Hey, you gonna fly here to do it? I could do with a parking teacher on top of the stunt driver coach...

Hi all!

Update on my soap opera:

In trying to be able to communicate with me again (no promises of attempt to Recover, just communication) WH sent me a bcc copy on OW's NC letter... but ... he changed her e-mail and added one additional number (to make sure she doesn't actually get the e-mail).

I don't know if I am more affronted by his lies, or by his disregard of my mental capacity.

Now it is official, his brain turned to mush. I don't even know how to approach this...

Oh good grief!! I would have your IM email him and tell him that you noticed he used the wrong email address for the OW.

This is another attempt to get you to break Plan B without having to do anything. He wants to have two women meeting his needs and if he can con you into communication, he can have the best of both worlds. At your expense, of course.

"con" is the key word here. Thanks, Mel. It feels crappy to have to deal with his bs...I will let my IM know about staying in Plan B.

Waywards are so dumb.

Like he thinks you're that dumb.

What a smart woman you are e!

Ignore it. You should never have seen it. Isn't he blocked?