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Well, we are going to see a marriage counselor on the 19th. Wish us luck.
Married 23 yrs
WW-46
Me- 47
DD18
DD11
Dday #1 - Oct. 8 2006
Too many other D-Days to remember
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Well, we are going to see a marriage counselor on the 19th. Wish us luck. Do you know that marriage counseling has an 84% fail rate? Can you do MB coaching instead? Or the very least please use this. How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Well, we are going to see a marriage counselor on the 19th. Wish us luck. Do you know that marriage counseling has an 84% fail rate? Can you do MB coaching instead? Or the very least please use this. How to Find a Good Marriage Counselorx2. Most counsellors do not know how to create a romantic loving marriage. Often they only address communication and have no idea about EP's to affair proof marriages. MB counselling has a success rate.
Me 46yrs
WH 46yrs "Isildur"
Married: 22yrs 8mths
DS 9yrs;DD 19yrs;DS 21yrs
Bomb drop:marriage not working don't know if ILY 12.11.11
DD:26.11.11
WH moves to OW house 28.11.11
Formal MB Plan A 14.4.12
Plan B 27.4.12
D:20.7.14
"There are moments in life that make us & set the course of who we become. Sometimes they're little & subtle,sometimes they're big & we never saw them coming. No one asks for their life to change, but it does. It's what we do afterwards that counts & we find out who we are."
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Rock,
I saw a marriage counselor with my wife and she used it as a platform to complain about me. She told the counselor she was no lOnger having an affair.
It was all lies. Some of the complaints were legitimate but the problem is that you can't resolve marital conflict while an affair is ongoing.
Your wife has had multiple affairs.
What is your reason for seeking marital counseling? What do you hope to walk away with when you leave the counselors office?
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Hope. Maybe some answers. The feeling that I am trying to do something.
Married 23 yrs
WW-46
Me- 47
DD18
DD11
Dday #1 - Oct. 8 2006
Too many other D-Days to remember
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Well I don't think you will get hope from a marriage counselor.
They have a very poor success rate and don't know how to deal with affairs.
Some may suggest an open marriage.
The Christian counselors may say "it's time to forgive".
They are not qualified to deal with affairs.
Dr Harley is qualified. He is a national expert.
He has said that based on his professional experience, if the Surviving an Affair recovery plan is not followed strictly, then attempts at marital recovery will fail.
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Dr Harley is qualified. He is a national expert.
He has said that based on his professional experience, if the Surviving an Affair recovery plan is not followed strictly, then attempts at marital recovery will fail. Ditto
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