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Re: Going out of my mind. . . . .
realsoccermom #2607869 03/20/12 09:38 PM
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Originally Posted by realsoccermom
I agree, but I felt that those terms were selfish and irresponsible of me.

Hopefully you understand now that is not the case.

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Now what happens if my husband does not want to walk away not knowing the truth of the situation.

We would suggest Plan B. Which is a completely dark separation until he agrees to end all contact for life with the OW.

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A little background on my husband, his father left him when he was three months old and dealt with issues throughout his childhood because of that.

Your children will have "issues" throughout their childhood when their family breaks up over this affair. On the other hand, this hypothetical OC has never met your husband and could just as easily be raised by another man. Your children will be damaged for life by a divorce.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: Going out of my mind. . . . .
MelodyLane #2701408 01/23/13 08:40 PM
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Get financials in place for you and your children pronto. If you and your husband work through and pass this, you would have protected your hard earned family assets.

While your husband and you face this, it's possible that he has a child on the way. If she goes for child support before you, she gets more. Get there first. You also need to discuss this with your husband. Find out where he is at. He might actually surprise you.

But get to a laywer and protect yoursel and your children first.

Stay on here and read, vent and learn. Knowledge is power my dear. If you sit back, wringing your hands, you could get run over.

Read all of Harveys site. And be open and honest with yourself.


Re: Going out of my mind. . . . .
LynnG #2701542 01/24/13 09:22 AM
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This is an old threat that went dead so I can't see why it was brought back from the dead.

Being it was I will add that I hope this BW had a DNA test done as well as speak with a lawyer.
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