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Hello bw's! I used to post here a while back and made many friends. Some, like you, were in the depths of despair and believing life would never be happy or normal again.
If you look out for you and your children, and be as honest as possible with yourself and what you want and need, you will survive, thrive and life will be happy again!!!!
I was emailed today that somebody wanted me to come here. If someone had a question, or just needed a cyber hug, I'm here for you.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hello! I'm going to try to read through and see what's going on these days. Hope everyone is leaning and counting on each other!!
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Hello! I'm going to try to read through and see what's going on these days. Hope everyone is leaning and counting on each other!! IT has been really great! Dr Harley has written and spoken quite a bit on this subject so newcomers are getting much more structured guidance now.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Excellent!! He is very very good.
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LynnG!!! I don't "know" you, but read ALL your posts/threads when I was in the THICK of my own sitch. You are AMAZING!!!! THANK YOU for all your advice!!! Hope life is treating you well. 
Me: BS age 35 POS-eX-the SORRIEST, CRUELEST, LOWLY WAYWARD SCUMBAG out there Married 14.5 years, together almost 16 DDay: 7-5-09 OC born: 7-23-09 no COM: tried 6 years  D filed 5/05/2011 D final 11/10/11 I was gaslighted for 2 years. "You were not built for a safe story. Take risks and feel what it is like to actually be brave. It's worth it." Carlos Whittaker
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Hi Lynn
it wasn't me, but I have read your posts also. I agree with the other posters - you are awesome and strong. My post originally started here, but moved to SAA thread. Maybe you could read through my thread a bit and give me some thoughts.
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I agree with everyone else...Lynn G. your posts were so inspiring. I wish I could have picked your brain more in the beginning but I am in a much better place now.
Thank you for your insight!
Me BS
DD 14 DS 10 DS 8 DS 2 DS 1
DDay 7/2009 (learned about A and OC same night)
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Glad I could help. I'm not one to mince words or wrap them up all cozy sweet! There used to be a plethora of ow on here that were, in my opinion, being quite aggressive with women who's lives were shattered. I was quite happy to take them on. If course they hated me. I was, am, and always will stand by my opinions, as stated. Sadly, the worst moment in your life is when you need to be the toughest, most honest, and open...to yourself. All the legalities absolutely need to be addressed, rather quickly. Those words annoyed many. Your friends and families can cuddle you, hug you and live you as you go through this. I wanted to encourage all the BW to stand up and fight for their marriage, their Children, their wants and needs. Be honest!! It's the only way. I am touched and happy to have helped. Being a BW with an OC does not nullify your value as a woman, nor dies it require you to sacrifice your hopes and dreams. Any and all decisions within the marriage are none of OW business. Choose whatever works for your family. Period.  Best wishes to you all!!!!
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Hello!! Thank you - Thank you - Thank YOU!!
I read your ENTIRE thread. Every Word. I have concluded that:
You are AWESOME - You are ELOQUENT - You are INSPIRING!!
You saved me. Your words gave me peace of mind. You gave me direction when I was floundering. You took away MY GUILT for what I was feeling. For that - I THANK YOU!!
Can Not Believe
“Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.”
Robert Collier
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Glad I could help. I'm not one to mince words or wrap them up all cozy sweet! There used to be a plethora of ow on here that were, in my opinion, being quite aggressive with women who's lives were shattered. I was quite happy to take them on. If course they hated me. I was, am, and always will stand by my opinions, as stated. We are kindred spirits in this regard.  My first week of posting on this website, I was called out by an OW in a call out thread. That was after another OW chastised me in another thread for suggesting snooping. This place was crawling with brazen, entitled skanks from gloryb. So I had to hang around and put my Texas boot in a few be-hinds over the years. They don't like to come see me anymore!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. I so agree that your posts have really made a difference on this forum! You were one of the FEW voices of sanity here. And you took alot of crap for it! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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LynneG!!! Our heroine BW!!
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
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LynneG!!! Our heroine BW!! I agree.  <~~~ LynneG
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Aww!! Stay strong, say what you need, be honest and live your lives sweet ladies!!!
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One of my all-time-favorite posters of all time!
Thank you so much for all you gave to MB when it was so desparately needed!!
Lynn,, how's things going in your life?
Dday- Feb 1998
Recovered!!
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I went back and read some of Lynn's posts - what a great poster, during a time when it was apparently popular to navel-gaze and commiserate without bothering to actually work on a plan of attack to kill affairs and recover marriages. Hey Lynn, any time you want to start posting again is a good time!
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Just dropped in to check on you all!!! Again!!!
Peace and love to each and every one of you. !!!!!!
Be strong ladies!!! Love yourselves and never let another dictate or control YOUR family and your marriages!!!
Love you all!!
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