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Me and my husband have been married for three years... He used to be confident and ambitious,and great in bed! As soon as I realized he was addicted to pain pills, I did not run, I wanted to help. I talked to his parents and to him. He started taking suboxone & continued for 2 years. He has been (since he hasn't taken pills) very irritable and moody, and when we "hook up" he is super quick . He did not get me anything for our anniversary or my birthday. (he could have took me on a picknic, I'm not hard to please) I just needed the acknowledgement from him, you know? He never tells me "you look great" or anything to that nature... Only "are you going to wear that to work?" Meaning my pants that fit me just right. (He was saying it, as if he was worried I was seeing another man!) I know he doesn't sound that great,that old memory of him makes a few glimmers from time to time. I just discovered a "Spy App" he downloaded on my phone, not to mention 1/2 his pay check was unaccounted for. He asked me to keep the other half to pay his bills. He had $100 left. He told me I could order a Wii console, that I wanted. Two days later he texts me, "if you still have that $100 can I have it back? And you get the Wii, next pay check?" He ripped my heart out. I told him to leave me alone... I am afraid he maybe taking pills again. He keeps accusing me of being with another man, but I BELIEVE in marriage. If I didn't I would be here. He keeps saying I'm just selfish. I would rather give than receive, any day! It's just nice that he offered the bday present to me... I'm tired of being called names, I'm tired of living with his mama, I'm tired of being ignored. I just want the old him, but it was only an illusion...
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Me and my husband have been married for three years... He used to be confident and ambitious,and great in bed! As soon as I realized he was addicted to pain pills, I did not run, I wanted to help. I talked to his parents and to him. He started taking suboxone & continued for 2 years. He has been (since he hasn't taken pills) very irritable and moody, and when we "hook up" he is super quick . He did not get me anything for our anniversary or my birthday. (he could have took me on a picknic, I'm not hard to please) I just needed the acknowledgement from him, you know? He never tells me "you look great" or anything to that nature... Only "are you going to wear that to work?" Meaning my pants that fit me just right. (He was saying it, as if he was worried I was seeing another man!) I know he doesn't sound that great,that old memory of him makes a few glimmers from time to time. I just discovered a "Spy App" he downloaded on my phone, not to mention 1/2 his pay check was unaccounted for. He asked me to keep the other half to pay his bills. He had $100 left. He told me I could order a Wii console, that I wanted. Two days later he texts me, "if you still have that $100 can I have it back? And you get the Wii, next pay check?" He ripped my heart out. I told him to leave me alone... I am afraid he maybe taking pills again. He keeps accusing me of being with another man, but I BELIEVE in marriage. If I didn't I would be here. He keeps saying I'm just selfish. I would rather give than receive, any day! It's just nice that he offered the bday present to me... I'm tired of being called names, I'm tired of living with his mama, I'm tired of being ignored. I just want the old him, but it was only an illusion... Welcome to MB. Is your H in a program for his addiction? Does he have a sponsor? Do you have any children? What are your ages?
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I am afraid he maybe taking pills again. Why?
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If your husband is not currently addicted to pills, this program can help the two of you build a fulfilling, romantic marriage.
I think you need to verify if he is taking pills again, first, before you decide what to do.
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Please listen to this radio clip. Radio Clip on MB and Addictions
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Well, over $200 is missing & he refuses to take a drug test!
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Well, over $200 is missing & he refuses to take a drug test! So it sounds like he's using again. Can you get him out of the house? Or can you leave? Did you listen to the radio clip? Dr. Harley recommends separation where addictions are involved.
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FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Have opioid pain medications been his only addiction?
His Premature Ejaculation (PE) is actually a common paradoxical effect of suboxone.
Why... has he been on suboxone for 2 years? Does he actually have any chronic pain issues? I'm having a hard time imagining why he would need to be on them for 2 years instead of 6 months-1 year if he were following any type of chemical dependency recovery program.
More likely he has been catching fixes on and off over the past two years.
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