TO,

Let's GET GOING with the critical exposure targets.

Your thisclose to corrective action, but your window for effective action is beginning to close...

You know, I don't believe that this man left her workplace. I think this was something you told us to make us stop insisting on that crucial part of exposure.

How do you know he left the workplace? Until yesterday, you did not even know that your wife had been living with him for two months. And you still haven't answered the mystery of the man who supposedly moved out of state. Who was that man, how do you know he moved out of state and how does he fit into this whole picture?

You are telling us some things you think we want to hear, such as that you put spyware on her phone and exposed to her parents, neither of which you actually did, and now this. I don' t think he left her job at all; you just don't want to expose to their bosses, because you don't want to tick off your wife.

You are handing your wife over to OM wrapped up in a romantic red bow. You have been paying for them to live together and you intend to continue financing her affair, just as long as you do not annoy her into leaving you.

Except - she has already left you.

Hotel makes for a romantic getaway with OM.

We understand how that you are confused, but the only chance you have to see your son grow up in an intact family, is to kill this affair first.

How your wife reacts to that is inconsequential. She will naturally be livid that you dare interfere with her newly found fantasy love.
That said, if you succeed in sinking her little love boat, she will eventually turn to the best thing in sight, which is you.

Exposure should be done as fast as possible, before she has time to spin her story.
Now stop looking at your wife for advice on how to save your family. Just swallow the bitter pill and get going.

So after meeting with the counselor today she informed me that WW came in and did tell her everything that happened. I comfirm by telling her everything I know about the affair too. She is making a move in the right directions, it is unclear as to what her choice is right now. She is looking at apartments with her parents today to move into her own apartment. I have also looked at moving into my own place because the memories of home is just too much. We have a session again next week. Either way it goes I have prepared myself for the worst case, I have learned how to live alone and be okay with it. Thank you guys for your support, even when sometimes the support feels like I am being yelled at.

It is because you waste valuable board members time. We have people here who are serious about saving their marriages and you take time away from them. This board is not a blogging forum. I see you have ignored everything we said once again.

The reason for not exposing at work is that the OM is not working there. The EA was with another person who did indeed leave the states. She met the current OM because he was related to the EA OM. She started asking the current OM about the EA OM and thats how they met. The current OM is not working there. Yesterday I did expose her to her parents via facebook message. Thats why both of them are here today to be with her and talk to her about A. Sorry guys I dont have a computer so it is hard for me to quote and reply to the responses I am using my iphone.
I am not telling you guys things just because I think you guys want to hear it. I never got the spyware on the phone, I found out because I was already suspecting it and she kept telling me stoires of him being married with two kids so through people I know I found out that he was not married and does not have two kids. I found out the information on the phone because we were in the car and she fell asleep and I broke into her phone, by resetting the protector screen.
I do not intent to finance her affair, all accounts have been split and we both own separate accounts now. I did give her the money yesterday to ensure she has a place to stay with my son, that is the only reason why.
Melody: I am not using this as a blog I am honestly seeking advice from everyone here.

You're seeking advice. The problem is you're getting it but NOT FOLLOWING IT!

Today, you posted this:


Three days ago, you posted this:


Which is true?

Omg I posted it and then found out the truth on Sunday. Because they met at work. I assumed it was the first one but she told me it was not and then she informed me about how they met.

Here is what you said two or three days ago:

"This was the EA, according to her". You stated above that the OM you found out she is now living with is the OM in the EA "according to her".

So, TO...it IS/WAS a workplace affair?

You've told us so many different stories that you've lost track. Obviously, there is only one OM and she met him at work. (There aren't 2 different OM; you just told us that because you didn't want to do workplace exposure.)

You don't give her money to drag your innocent child from place to place. Your child has a home. Which is your house. It is not good for a child to be moved from place to place and to be confronted with ever different boyfriends.

Have you asked gor legal advice on how zo protect your child.

Again, you are contradicting yourself. What is the purpose of telling us you do not intend to finance her affair and splitting up the accounts when you are still giving her money? Obviously, you do intend to finance the affair, and you aren't making her rely on her own, separate account for money. You wrote that the only reason you gave her money was so she would have a place to stay with your son. That is nonsense. You know perfectly well that she is not homeless; she has a home with you and your son, but she chose to abandon it. You are financing her decision to abandon you and your son. Why?!