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Originally Posted by mozilla
I hope that you can reach an enthusiatic agreement about moving very soon.

This conflicts with Dr Harley's advice. Perhaps you should listen to the show before commenting further.


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Originally Posted by mozilla
I hope that you can reach an enthusiatic agreement about moving very soon.

You realize this marriage is all be destroyed, right? Her H isn't using POJA right now because he has basically given up on the M.

Originally Posted by fifteenyears
Feeling a little hopeless and defeated right now. Came home and in our he on top of the letter I wrote BH this morning was a card for a divorce attorney. He is not here, not responding to my text either.


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Originally Posted by mozilla
but at some point in this situation your BH is going to HAVE to AGREE to make this possible.

mozilla, just so that you are aware, Dr Harley just advised another poster in a little bit of a different situation, Rocketqueen, to move as well and hope that her H follows her.

It was very clear to him in that situation and in this one that the move would be made without POJA.


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Originally Posted by SusieQ
Originally Posted by mozilla
I hope that you can reach an enthusiatic agreement about moving very soon.

This conflicts with Dr Harley's advice. Perhaps you should listen to the show before commenting further.
Yes, please do.


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Ah, I did not realize Dr. Harley advised a WS to separate from the BS via a move without his agreement in order to reconcile after an affair. I admit that my experience with SAA is probably the older book and not the newer one.

That does open up a whole lot more recovery options.

I apologize that my out of date comments were offensive.

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Mozilla, it's all good!! smile He has told several folks to do this on his radio show. The reasoning is that there is no hope anyway UNLESS the spouse moves. In this case, they already know that is their only hope so she has nothing to lose and everything to gain.


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Thank you for your patience with a newcomer, melody lane. You always have a good balance of honesty, objectivity and kindness.

I will catch up on some updated material reading smile

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Originally Posted by mozilla
I will catch up on some updated material reading smile

Actually it was addressed in the radio show when fifteen's email was read. Did you end up listening? What did you think?


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fifteen, how's it going? Any update?


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Originally Posted by SusieQ
fifteen, how's it going? Any update?


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Fifteen,
Where are you ? Are you okay ?
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Originally Posted by FindingFreedom
Fifteen,
Where are you ? Are you okay ?
FF
How are you Fifteenyears?


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where is 15 anybody have an idea ?


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